Spijt!
By Barbara Shulgasser-Parker,
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Disturbing Dutch drama about bullying has violence.

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What's the Story?
SPIJT! raises the question of whether good people have a responsibility to step in when they see wrongdoing. David (Robin Boissevain) is just such a person, a bright and decent high school student who visibly winces when he sees Jochem (Stefan Collier), an innocent classmate, abused. Bullies steal Stefan's clothes. They push his face into his food. They beat him up. They puncture his bicycle tires. They call him "fatty." Teachers laugh at Jochem, too, David knows better but he seems paralyzed by fear of being targeted by the bullies himself, being seen as a snitch, or perceived as someone who feels superior to his peers because he's done the right thing. If he speaks up, the others, who are probably equally appalled by the bullying, might hate him for making them feel guiltier about their own silence and cowardice. After it's too late to help Jochem, David invites his journalist mother to write about bullying at his school in the hope that others will learn from the tragedy.
Is It Any Good?
This Dutch film illustrates the irrefutable observation attributed to Edmund Burke's that "All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing." This was true during the Nazi era, during the American Civil Rights era, and it endures today in every classroom around the world where weak kids are targeted by mean ones. Young David represents how unreliable even the best people are when it comes to standing up to evil. Sensitive performances and a canny script beautifully communicate David's conflict. He knows bullying is wrong -- he even seems to feel Jochem's pain himself. But the movie reminds us that if someone as empathetic and seemingly principled as David does nothing to stand up to the bullies, what hope is there for anyone to step in and stop the cycle?
The movie stops at the brink of pressing for an answer to that important question: Why do people turn away in the face of evil? But it does wonder how adults can turn away from what is right in front of them. Spijt! also makes the effort to look at bullies as human beings and what circumstances might have fostered their cruelty. David does find the courage to speak out eventually, and even takes some of the blame, but only when nothing is at stake. The filmmakers slyly comment on the source of human misery when a class studies Sartre's famed play, No Exit. The playwright observes, "Hell is other people."
Talk to Your Kids About ...
Families can talk about whether decent people have an obligation to step in when they witness bad deeds, cruelty, and evil. How is this question presented in Spijt!?
Do you think grownup intervention can stop bullying, or do you think kids need to sort it out themselves? Why?
What should you do if you or someone you know is being bullied?
What do you think makes some teens think suicide is their only options? Where do you think kids in despair should turn for help?
Movie Details
- On DVD or streaming: June 20, 2013
- Cast: Robin Boissevain , Dorus Witte , Stefan Collier , Charlottle Bakker
- Director: Dave Schram
- Studio: Shooting Star Filmcompany
- Genre: Drama
- Character Strengths: Compassion , Courage , Empathy
- Run time: 95 minutes
- MPAA rating: NR
- Last updated: March 31, 2022
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