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The Death and Life of John F. Donovan

Movie review by
Tara McNamara, Common Sense Media
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Convoluted gay-identity drama drags; drug abuse, smoking.
  • R
  • 2019
  • 123 minutes

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The parents' guide to what's in this movie.

Positive Messages

Accept who you are and be that person; unhappiness comes from living a lie. 

Positive Role Models & Representations

Focus is on tragedy of the life of a man who chose to stay in the closet regarding his sexuality. Supporting characters try to show they'd support him if he came out. A Black female journalist is shown to be intelligent, empathetic.

Violence

Two attacks: one on a child by a middle school bully, another by a man who takes out his frustrations via beating up a colleague until he's bloody. 

Sex

Making out; oral sex is visually implicated. The film's theme is about accepting sexual identity.

Language

Frequent swearing (some by kids), including multiple variations of "f--k" and "s--t." Other strong language includes "a--hole," "bitch," "d--k"/"d--khead," "douche," "piss," "slutty," and phrases "oh my God" and "what the hell."

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Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

Frequent smoking by children and young adults. A glamorous but troubled young actor abuses prescription drugs, asks for certain ones by name. Frequent social drinking; in one scene, drinking leads to a character acting on the sexual urge he's been suppressing, which is depicted positively. A main character dies from a drug overdose at a young age.

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that The Death and Life of John F. Donovan is a drama that warns of the dangers of denying your true sexual orientation. Flashbacks show 11-year-old Rupert (Jacob Tremblay) being bullied with gay slurs at school, while, in Hollywood, his pen pal/the star of his favorite TV show, John F. Donovan (Kit Harington), tries to keep his homosexuality a secret. Both are seeking acceptance, and viewers are meant to root for Donovan to embrace his true sexuality (even though he's married to a woman). A sex scene between him and another man -- which includes passionate kissing and the suggestion of oral sex -- is presented as loving and beautiful. Donovan abuses prescription drugs and smokes cigarettes, as do the preteen bullies and 23-year-old Rupert. Social drinking permeates the film; a mother who drinks too much is portrayed negatively, but, on another occasion, getting drunk is shown as a way to free yourself from your hangups. Other iffy content includes a bloody fistfight and strong language ("f--k," "s--t," etc.).

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Teen, 17 years old Written byHami99 December 24, 2019

Great movie

I think It's good for the people who have favorite celebrity and they love them

What's the story?

In THE DEATH AND LIFE OF JOHN F. DONOVAN, young actor Rupert Turner (Ben Schnetzer) sits down with a journalist to discuss the pen-pal friendship he developed as a child with his on-screen idol, John F. Donovan (Kit Harington). Turner parallels his life at age 11 (when he's played by Jacob Tremblay) with what was going on with Donovan's life in the year leading up to his tragic, premature death.

Is it any good?

This is one of those times when you find yourself wondering aloud how so many award-winning actors could be in a movie so bad -- and the answer may be the greatest reason to watch it. The film has a strong message: Be true to yourself. In this story's case, that message applies to an actor who denies his homosexuality, resulting in self-destruction. In the case of French-Canadian director Xavier Dolan, he too deviated from the path that brought him early notice, with The Death and Life of John F. Donovan. And he has, remarkably, admitted that, in doing so, he bit off more than he could chew in making his first English language, big-budget, big-cast film. Those high stakes led to lots of oversight by disapproving financiers and producers, and Dolan ended up spending two years editing his four-hour film down to two and cutting out the antagonist entirely. Whatever happened to get it to this place, the movie -- just like its title character -- is a mess.

The Death and Life of John F. Donovan will surely be a lesson for rookie filmmakers, but it also presents a lesson for us all. It harkens back to a time (the mid-2000s) when gossip reporting was particularly deplorable and irresponsible, pursuing celebrities like game hunters -- tracking their every move and dalliance, publishing stolen nude photos from hackers, and pushing them out of the closet in the most sordid ways. Dolan spotlights the stress that kind of scrutiny puts on celebrities. It's also a good examination of how we seek acceptance, how we may try to be someone we're not to fit in, and the toll that kind of dishonesty takes. All of the cast's A-list actors deliver -- no one gives a bad performance -- but the film's disjointed editing and the distracting, moody cinematography may make you wonder why you're even watching.

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about the public's appetite for celebrity gossip. How much of a celebrity's private life do you think is owed to the public? Do you think giving up privacy is a fair exchange for gaining fame and fortune? How do you think you'd handle photographers and reporters following your every move?

  • Talk about the comparison of schoolyard bullying to the bullying that happens to Donovan by the press. What steps can we take if we experience or witness bullying

  • Director Xavier Dolan is gay and writes and directs many films that focus on LGBTQ concerns. Why is representation important? Is it important for stories to be told by people who've lived a similar experience? Given the film's plot, why are inclusion and acceptance important?

  • How are drinking, drugs, and smoking depicted in The Death and Life of John F. Donovan? Do you think it's realistic? Is any of it glamorized?

  • Talk about the quote repeated throughout the film: "Style is knowing who you are." What do you think that quote means to the film? Why is it important to your own mental health to be authentic?

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