A Lot or a Little?
What you will—and won't—find in this movie.
If you don't ask the right questions, you'll never get any answers. Bad memories stand out more vividly than good ones. Everyone should try everything once.
Positive Role Models
A cynical man learns to express real feelings and value the person he loves. Others discover that prioritizing career over relationship hurts the chances of a good relationship. People lie for advantage.
All the characters here have variations of White skin. Two straight men wonder if gay people are happier, making assumptions that gay couples prefer to live in "open" relationships that allow casual, outside sex. Someone cites a study suggests that all of us are "a little bi-."
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Violence & Scariness
A woman hits a man. A man punches his male friend, causing a bloody nose and a crash of glass knickknacks. A drunk woman projectile vomits profusely. Someone slips and falls in the vomit. A woman breaks a window and tries to climb out of a house, cutting herself in the process.
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Sex, Romance & Nudity
Two people announce that they've had sex, thereby betraying partners and friends. Two straight men decide to try kissing. They enjoy it but aren't aroused. Characters discuss undescended testicles. A man's penis is briefly seen out of focus, hanging between his legs, shot from behind. A man's behind is shown.
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"F--k," "s--t," "bastard," "ass," "douche bag," "bitch," "testicles," "balls," "penis," "jerk off," and "barf."
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Drinking, Drugs & Smoking
Adults drink a lot of alcohol, and smoke joints and cigarettes.
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Parents Need to Know
Parents need to know that The Four of Us is a 2021 drama featuring two close couples whose partner-swapping experiment leads to a rocky weekend getaway. Conversations (in German with English subtitles) trigger a reevaluation of all of their relationships. Sex is discussed. So are undescended testicles. A man's penis is briefly seen out of focus, hanging between his legs, shot from behind. A man's behind is shown. Language includes "f--k," "s--t," "bastard," "ass," "douche bag," "bitch," "testicles," "balls," "penis," "jerk off," and "barf." Adults drink alcohol and smoke marijuana and cigarettes. A drunk woman projectile vomits profusely. Someone slips and falls in the vomit. To stay in the loop on more movies like this, you can sign up for weekly Family Movie Night emails.
Is It Any Good?
The Four of Us is successfully constructed so that the many forced elements of this generally unlikely story fall together in an emotionally true and persuasive way. At least one character travels through a plausible arc of feelings and as a result seems to emerge a different, better person. Director Florian Gottschick handles a messy script (that he co-wrote) with perhaps a subtlety it might not deserve, and the cast is talented and convincing. It's obvious that the couples are wallowing in the problems of the overprivileged. Nevertheless, the movie manages to explore universal questions about monogamy, loyalty, the pressure to have kids, the pressure to have careers, and what human beings really want and need from each other. Not much attention is given to the revelation that both couples broke the only rule, but the first couple to admit it received all the criticism.
The twenty-somethings here recognize and grapple with being the first generation to have had the constant overstimulation of the internet inserted into their lives since childhood. They face the reality that they "can't slap a pretty filter" on their relationships. They wonder in what ways that has resulted in stunted emotions and difficulties in connecting fully with others, all worthwhile issues to contemplate. As in a bad trendy magazine article, thoughtless betrayals and dishonesty are on display here, but the filmmakers allow viewers to decide how they feel about them.
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