Parents' Guide to The Guide to the Perfect Family

Movie NR 2021 102 minutes
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Jennifer Green By Jennifer Green , based on child development research. How do we rate?

age 16+

Dramedy tackles family mental health; drinking, language.

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What's the Story?

Rose (Emilie Bierre) appears to be a high-achieving teen, flying through school with top grades and vying for a hockey scholarship to college in THE GUIDE TO THE PERFECT FAMILY (LE GUIDE DE LA FAMILLE PARFAITE). Her dad, Martin (Louis Morissette), calls her his "champ" and constantly pushes her to do her best, even while Rose's younger stepbrother, Mathis (Xavier Lebel), is coddled by his mom, Marie-Soleil (Catherine Chabot). When Rose is caught selling drugs for copies of old tests at her prestigious private school, she's suspended temporarily. The revelation brings all of Rose's true feelings to the surface, and she, Martin, and Rose's mom, the free-spirited Caroline (Isabelle Guerard), will have to face them or risk losing Rose.

Is It Any Good?

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Billed as a "dramedy," this film sometimes struggles to balance its tone between comedy and drama, but while the humor lightens the mood, its more serious scenes and ideas give it life. Some of the comedy in The Guide to the Perfect Family hits its mark, most involving overprotective helicopter parents and their entitled results. A mom can barely balance the body of her large 5-year-old on her lap while breastfeeding him; parents demand specialized individual treatment from a teacher; a dad ends a conflictive card-guessing game alone with a card of Hitler on his head, unbeknownst to him; a pumpkin spice-chugging millennial employee finds actually working at his job too emotionally taxing. The fact that many of these gags are so goofy do work to lighten the overall mood of the film and make it more approachable, but in doing so they also threaten to undermine the very serious message it aims to convey.

That message is embodied in the father-daughter pair played exceptionally well by Louis Morissette and Emilie Bierre. A couple of scenes involving just the two of them are the film's highlights, one where they fight over what music to listen to on a car ride and another where their resentment and anger floats to the surface during an outing on a lake. We see the world through both of their eyes, as well as through their social media worlds, and it's possible viewers will sympathize with one or the other depending on their own station in life. Another dialogue involving a grandfather comparing his parenting style with his two grown sons, both also now fathers, brings in a third generation's view. What's more important than whether any one generation is actually right about the best way to parent is how they find common ground and see each other's perspective that counts. That's a lesson parents and teens alike can take away.

Talk to Your Kids About ...

  • Families can talk about the different models of parenting seen or discussed in The Guide to the Perfect Family. Do you see things more like the kids, the parents, or the grandparents in this film? Is there a model for parenting that the story seems to support more than others?

  • How does the film portray alcohol consumption? Are there any consequences shown? Why is it important for kids to see consequences when it comes to drinking?

  • Several parents talk about the benefits of putting their kids on medication in this movie. Does the script seem to be making a judgement about this? If so, what is it?

  • The movie is set in Quebec and everybody speaks French. The father even has some difficulty when speaking English with a work contact. What do you know about the French-speaking population in Canada? Where could you go for more information?

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