The Lobster

Movie review by
Jeffrey M. Anderson, Common Sense Media
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Parents recommend
Sex, violence in mature romantic drama's dystopian future.
  • R
  • 2016
  • 118 minutes

Parents say

age 16+
Based on 13 reviews

Kids say

age 15+
Based on 8 reviews

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The parents' guide to what's in this movie.

Positive Messages

Like any story of a dystopian future, this movie asks viewers to consider the systems in place to either help or control people. Raises many questions about the nature of couples versus single people, the role of sex in a relationship, what makes a good "match," the threat of violence against those who rebel, etc.

Positive Role Models & Representations

The characters here are more symbols than anything, and though the main character does manage to bravely escape one institution, he ends up trapped in another, without much awareness of his situation.


People hunt others with tranquilizer guns and darts. Shots of the tranquilized bodies after the "hunt." Gory suicide attempt via jumping; woman screams in bloody mess on sidewalk. A dog is kicked to death; blood-covered corpse shown. Characters' lips are sliced open, covered in bloody bandages. Woman beaten with the butt of a gun. Bloody mouth. Donkey shot and killed. Man's hand burned in a toaster. Violent story of a wolf attack in a zoo. Bloody nose attacks, with blood on clothing. Brief fight between three men. Man bashes his own head on table. Man kicks little girl in shin. Slapping. Stabbing. Choking on food. Actors perform demonstrations of choking and rape. Dead rabbits. Suggested eye stabbing.


Graphic sex, shown from behind and missionary (no sensitive nudity). Hotel workers rub their behinds on men's groins for sexual stimulation. Heavy, passionate kissing and touching. A man is chastised for masturbating in his room. A woman offers sexual favors (oral sex, anal sex, and more are involved). A woman describes a graphic sexual dream. Discussion of sexual identity.


A use of "f--k." Use of "idiot."

Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

Brief social drinking.

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that The Lobster -- which stars Colin Farrell and Rachel Weisz -- is a strange, futuristic dystopian drama with elements of dark comedy. It's very much aimed at adults: It has several very gory moments and shocking, sudden violence, as well as the threat/suggestion of violence. People hunt each other, a suicide attempt ends in a bloody mess, animals are killed, people are beaten, stabbed, and much more. Sexual content is also strong, with graphic sex scenes (although there's no sensitive nudity) and explicit dialogue about sex. On the other hand, substance use is limited to social drinking by adults, and swearing is infrequent, with only one "f--k." Some teens may be curious about this one, but it's extremely mature.

User Reviews

  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Adult Written byroadlawyer June 6, 2016

Disgusting piece of animal torture porn

This movie was falsely advertised as a quirky romantic comedy. It is not. It is a pretentious exercise in sadism disguised as art. It is bad enough when the hu... Continue reading
Adult Written byst watcher December 28, 2020

Look beyond the movie, actually 21 and older

This is not what you might think. It is shocking and awkwardly interesting and disturbing at the same time. The monotone setting where people accept their fate... Continue reading
Teen, 14 years old Written bygreenlemur23 May 6, 2020

Dystopian film is unsettling but ultimately beautiful

I just watched this movie and I was intrigued to see what people were saying about it on this website. Many of the reviews bash it for being dark or confusing,... Continue reading
Kid, 9 years old July 22, 2016

Brilliant, innovative and entertaining romantic drama is bloody, graphic and intense but great.

This brilliant, and gory dystopian drama takes place in a near future, where single adults only have 45 days to pick out a boyfriend or girlfriend or those who... Continue reading

What's the story?

In a strange, dystopian future, single adults are allowed only 45 days to find a suitable life mate. If their search ends in failure, people are turned into animals. When an architect's wife leaves him for another man, the architect, David (Colin Farrell), is forced to check into a sinister "hotel," where his progress in finding a new partner is monitored. He meets some other men (John C. Reilly and Ben Whishaw) and makes an attempt to partner with a chilly, unfeeling woman (Angeliki Papoulia) before escaping into the woods. There, David finds the Loners. Their fierce leader (Lea Seydoux) takes him in, under the condition that there's no flirting or coupling with any other loners. Trouble arises when David finds his perfect match (Rachel Weisz).

Is it any good?

Greek director Yorgos Lanthimos may have positioned himself among the world's great, provocative "maverick" filmmakers with this bizarre yet fascinating dystopian nightmare for grown-ups. Against all odds, Lanthimos actually received an Oscar nomination for Best Foreign Language Film for 2009's Dogtooth, and he now ventures into English and enlists Hollywood stars -- who are more like playthings here than performers -- with THE LOBSTER.

Lanthimos' palette is bleak, his pace is slow, and his characters all speak in unsettlingly measured, robotic tones, as if afraid to accidentally express any genuine emotion. Sudden bursts of sex and violence -- beginning with the startling opening shot -- and a clinical acceptance of disturbing imagery indicate a kind of brutal fearlessness in Lanthimos. But unlike other mavericks (Lars von Trier, Michael Haneke, or Catherine Breillat, for example), he seems to have a dark, brittle sense of humor; it's possible to view this movie as a pitch-black comedy.

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about The Lobster's gory violence. What's the effect of the sudden moments of violence? How does it compare to more sustained action violence in other movies? What's the impact of media violence on kids?

  • How is the movie's sexual content handled? What role does it play in the characters' relationships? How much sexual content in media is appropriate for kids?

  • In this dystopian future, who gets to decide what the rules are? Are they unfair? Can they be changed? Are there any situations in real life that mirror the one in the movie?

  • Why is so much emphasis placed on couplehood in this movie? Is there anything wrong with being single?

  • Why do you think the main character chooses a lobster for his animal? Does it seem like a good choice? What animal would you choose?

Movie details

  • In theaters: May 13, 2016
  • On DVD or streaming: August 2, 2016
  • Cast: Colin Farrell, Rachel Weisz, Lea Seydoux
  • Director: Yorgos Lanthimos
  • Studio: A24
  • Genre: Drama
  • Run time: 118 minutes
  • MPAA rating: R
  • MPAA explanation: sexual content including dialogue, and some violence
  • Last updated: September 20, 2019

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