Parents' Guide to The Lost Husband

Movie PG-13 2020 109 minutes
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Tara McNamara By Tara McNamara , based on child development research. How do we rate?

age 11+

Romantic drama about loss has farm charm; smoking.

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age 12+

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What's the Story?

Based on the novel by Katherine Center, THE LOST HUSBAND follows recently widowed Libby (Leslie Bibb) as she sets out to rebuild a new life for her family on her aunt's goat farm. Farm life is more challenging and mysterious than she expects, including having to take orders from hardened, unsympathetic farm manager James O'Connor (Josh Duhamel).

Is It Any Good?

Our review:
Parents say ( 2 ):
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This is a solid, enjoyable romantic drama that isn't geared toward kids but is fairly family-friendly. At first glance, writer-director Vicky Wight's second feature seems to display all the signs of a Hallmark movie. But The Lost Husband is well beyond that, boasting solid acting, a twisty storyline, a phenomenal soundtrack, and a romance that's about completely letting go of the one you loved before getting involved with someone else. It's unpredictable and yet relatable from the get-go: An upper-middle-class but broke widow escapes her self-absorbed mother's control to go start anew at her estranged aunt's goat farm, where she's expected to do lots of backbreaking work. At the crack of dawn. All day. When Duhamel breezes in, you know instantly that his O'Connor is the love interest (or "hot farmer," as the female locals call him), but things are more frosty than frisky. And while you know all along how things are going to end, it takes a long time to get there.

The movie is politically aware and yet simultaneously politically ambiguous. It takes place in Texas, but it's made clear that Aunt Jean is a "hippie liberal farmer" (a stellar turn by Nora Dunn). And her boyfriend is a "conservative lawyer and entrepreneur." O'Connor covers his truck with message bumper stickers, argues against college, and teaches kids who aren't his own to take on a bully with a jab to the solar plexus. Libby demurs on identifying her political stance, but she locks horns with the public school principal on zero-tolerance policies -- something that many parents will relate to, but perhaps isn't the best attitude to demonstrate for kids when respect for authority is crucial. The music is also an unexpected delight, mixing forgotten favorites with songs by one of Austin's favorite musicians, Bob Schneider, that will be new to most. The film is really Libby's journey of self-discovery, like Eat Pray Love on a budget, and the romance is just the well-deserved icing on the cake. While The Lost Husband isn't going to blow you away -- it's entertaining but not amazing -- it should be recognized for not falling into the trap of many films categorized under romance: It's not "syrupy" or "saccharine." Perhaps, it is "agave" -- a slightly healthier sweet.

Talk to Your Kids About ...

  • Families can talk about the idea of "survivor's remorse." How does Libby express that?

  • "Life isn't fair" is an expression we hear a lot -- but so is "the tougher the challenge, the greater the reward." How does Libby's story demonstrate that? Why is resilience an important life skill?

  • The characters debate how to deal with a bully. What's your opinion?

  • Libby expresses gratitude regularly. Why is gratitude beneficial to both the giver and the receiver?

  • Does the movie glamorize smoking or drinking?

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