The One I Love

Movie review by
S. Jhoanna Robledo, Common Sense Media
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Unpredictable, thought-provoking relationship drama.
  • R
  • 2014
  • 91 minutes

Parents say

age 11+
Based on 1 review

Kids say

age 13+
Based on 2 reviews

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The parents' guide to what's in this movie.

Positive Messages

Marriages can be difficult, and sometimes people need to be reminded why they fell in love. After a long time, couples might only see each other's flaws, and it can be tough to look past that and recognize the real person they're with.

Positive Role Models & Representations

At the retreat, Ethan is motivated to be a better husband and partner by seeing unexpected possibilities, while Sophie must decide whether she likes the "new and improved" Ethan or the original. They both have to make a difficult choice.


Couples bicker.


A couple makes love tenderly and affectionately. There's no nudity, but plenty of motion under the covers.


Infrequent profanity includes "s--t" and "f--k."


One character uses an iPhone.

Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

Adults drink wine at meals and while relaxing and socializing. In some scenes, they also smoke pot.

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that The One I Love is an offbeat indie dramedy (with a thriller streak) about the ways that people in long-term relationships slowly change -- and how those changes affect their partners. At the suggestion of their therapist, the main characters spend a weekend away at a small compound; they ultimately learn far more about each other, and themselves, than they expected or wanted. Expect several scenes with with pot smoking and social drinking, some swearing ("f--k," "s--t," etc.), and a few tender love scenes (no nudity). Be prepared to be surprised.

User Reviews

  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Adult Written bywingibbons January 10, 2015
Teen, 14 years old Written bymassie11 December 14, 2014

Best Indie of 2014 !!!!! DO NOT MISS

I watched this on netflix one night . i instantly fell in love . mild for an r . mostly language and drugs . this is something i would call a dramadeythriller... Continue reading
Teen, 17 years old Written byB-KMastah September 19, 2014

One of the most pleasant surprises of 2014.

I knew nothing about this movie going into it, which is extremely rare for me. I went to a 5:00 showing on a Sunday afternoon, and in turn, I got one of the mos... Continue reading

What's the story?

Sophie (Elisabeth Moss) and Ethan (Mark Duplass) are a married couple on the verge of breaking up. Their therapist sends them on a getaway to a mini-estate in a last-ditch effort to make inroads in their efforts to renew their stalled, damaged relationship. They're ostensibly by themselves ... or are they? In the guest house is another couple who's surprisingly similar to them and knows lots of intimate details about their lives. The encounter forces Sophie and Ethan to examine themselves, both as individuals and as a duo, and they come to some surprising conclusions.

Is it any good?

THE ONE I LOVE is fresh and eerie and insightful all at once, hard to categorize either as a romance (because much of it is about love) or as a thriller (because it is creepy). Much of the film's charm is attributable to Moss. She grounds the movie in an approachable authenticity, even as she manages to inhabit a role that's both ineffable and earthy. She's a master at subtlety without shorting her portrayal of a woman at a loss on how to make her marriage work, if she even wants to. She's the best part of the film. (Duplass' Ethan doesn't seem as specific as Moss' Sophie; we don't quite know why he makes the choices he does.)

An offbeat script allows The One I Love to straddle different genres with a certain degree of success, taking unpredictable turns while hitting certain milestones that we tend to expect from both relationship dramas and thrillers. Once you give yourself over to the plot's bizarro nature, you're attached to Sophie and Ethan (perhaps more Sophie than Ethan), wondering where this windy road leads. The ending may still leave you with questions, but it is satisfying. And, frankly, disheartening.

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about how The One I Love depicts love and marriage. Are its insights fresh and new? What's the overarching message?

  • What does the movie say about identity? How is it different from other romantic dramas/comedies you've seen?

  • What role do drinking and drug use play in the movie? Are there realistic consequences?

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