The Other Woman



Female buddy comedy OK for older teens; some sex, drinking.
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  • Review Date: April 22, 2014
  • Rated: PG-13
  • Genre: Comedy
  • Release Year: 2014
  • Running Time: 109 minutes

What parents need to know

Positive messages

Three women thrown together by unusual circumstances -- they were all seeing the same man (and one's married to him) -- manage to direct their anger at the actual perpetrator, the philanderer, rather than at each other. Instead of competing for his attentions, they empower each other and form a deep, hilarious friendship. Lots of toilet humor (diarrhea, dog poop, vomit).

Positive role models

Carly is a strong, self-possessed woman who won't let a man define her or set the romantic agenda. She helps Kate find her own voice in a lie-filled relationship. Kate, for her part, taps into a deep well of forgiveness for Carly and Amber, fixing her anger on the man who wronged them, not at the women (who were also deceived) and, more importantly, not at herself.


A woman wreaks havoc on a room with a golf club. A man walks into a glass window, breaking his nose (the scene turns bloody fast), then proceeds to run through and shatter a glass cubicle wall. He then gets punched in the face. A woman tackles another.


Lots of innuendo. Frank talk about waxing private parts and the frequency with which a couple has sex. Passionate kissing and groping. A man walks around in a towel. A bikini-clad woman's body is frequently shown in close-up (lingering on breasts and bottom), with characters discussing her appeal.


Many uses of "s--t" (and the related "bulls--t"), plus "a--hole," "damn," "hell," and "pu--y."


Labels are flashed to denote characters' affluence, including Mercedes Benz. Also: iPhone, Dell, etc.

Drinking, drugs, & smoking

Lots of social drinking by adults (wine, shots of hard liquor), sometimes to the point of inebriation. It seems like someone almost always has a drink in hand. One character says she wants to smoke but isn't shown doing so.

Parents Need to Know

Parents need to know that this sometimes very funny buddy comedy was originally rated R, but the MPAA lowered the rating to PG-13 after an appeal. Still, there's no shortage of iffy-for-younger-viewers material, starting with the premise: Three women (played by Cameron DiazLeslie Mann, and Kate Upton) form an offbeat friendship when they all realize they've been seeing the same man (one is actually married to him). Despite a plot revolving around cheating/infidelity, the messages that come through the strongest are the ones related to the women's friendship (which based on mutual respect) and mission (righting a wrong). Expect lots of innuendo/frank talk about sex (though no nudity) and relationships, kissing, scantily clad women and men, a little blood (a character walks into a glass door), swearing (mostly "s--t" and "a--hole"), some toilet humor (poop, vomit), and frequent social drinking, sometimes to excess.

What's the story?

New York City lawyer Carly (Cameron Diaz) has no time for friends. She barely has time for a boyfriend. But when she meets handsome, charming entrepreneur Mark (Nikolaj Coster-Waldau), she's smitten enough to cast away all other suitors. Eight weeks into their relationship, she decides to surprise Mark at his Connecticut house ... but the door is opened by Kate (Leslie Mann), Mark's wife. Carly and Kate realize they've been played and form a fast, if awkward, friendship. When they discover that Mark has yet another fling (Kate Upton), they spin into action.

Is it any good?


THE OTHER WOMAN is entertaining and sometimes insightful, even empowering, especially in the way it turns the idea of two (or, in this case, multiple) women vying for one man's attentions on its head. Here, the competition is immediately neutralized in the service of sisterhood, a refreshingly different take on the usual sexist tropes. Diaz is especially appealing for her ability to be acidic and embracing at the same time. Carly could have easily become the woman most wives would want to hate, but she's isn't. That's because Diaz plays her with knowing and compassion, and the friendship that develops between Kate and Carly is a bond based on true common ground.

But is The Other Woman good? Sure, in a baby-steps kind of way. But the "girl power" aspect is diluted by stereotypical bantering between the women that seems to only cover the same old tired subjects: body image, boy trouble, and grooming. Aren't women much more complicated than that? Especially those who hold high-level legal jobs and visionaries who ostensibly have sellable business ideas? It doesn't help that Upton's character is played as a ditz. Still, this buddy comedy is an improvement on many others that have preceded it. And that's worth applauding.

Families can talk about...

  • Families can talk about The Other Woman's take on female friendships. How is it portrayed here compared to other stories about two women who like the same man? What messages does it offer about friendships between women?

  • Do you think the movie undermines or embraces stereotypes about women? Do the main characters' conversations and relationships seem realistic to you?

  • The movie was originally rated R before being downgraded to PG-13. Is that rating appropriate, or is it too mature for a PG-13? Why do you think the filmmakers pursued the lower rating?

Movie details

Theatrical release date:April 25, 2014
DVD release date:July 29, 2014
Cast:Leslie Mann, Cameron Diaz, Nikolaj Coster-Waldau, Kate Upton, Nicki Minaj
Director:Nick Cassavetes
Studio:Twentieth Century Fox
Run time:109 minutes
MPAA rating:PG-13
MPAA explanation:mature thematic material, sexual references and language

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Teen, 14 years old Written byKaty22 April 27, 2014

Funny movie

What other families should know
Too much sex
Too much swearing
Kid, 12 years old June 9, 2014

Our Generation

In our generation, you can't hide your kids from our society. So might as well let them see it, if they want to. As long as you think your child is mature enough and won't be irresponsible with the words said, or the actions throughout the movie, then let them watch it! Also, you must teach your kids that some words or actions are NOT to be repeated!
What other families should know
Great messages
Great role models
Teen, 15 years old Written byThatGirl8 April 27, 2014

Not that Inappropriate

Coming from a 15 year old girl, who has a little sister who watched this movie (12 years old - but mature for her age)I did not find it that inappropriate. Kids hear very unsuitable words already at school and this isn't actually that bad compared to what kids already hear. Having said that, there is quite a few references to sex and drinking. This movie is very entertaining, slightly funny, but the ending wasn't that great compared to the rest of the movie. Overall, a good movie.
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Too much sex
Too much drinking/drugs/smoking


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