A Lot or a Little?
What you will—and won't—find in this movie.
Love people for who they are. Families should love you unconditionally. Poor choices have consequences. Focus on the good in your life. Who you're with reflects what you think of yourself. Honest communication is important to keep relationships healthy.
Positive Role Models
Adults of all ages behave very badly, from drinking too much to being mean, having affairs, keeping secrets, and generally getting into trouble. But they also love each other and stick up for one another when it matters.
Three of the main characters are White; a fourth is of mixed race (the character has a White mother and a Black father). Supporting characters include other people of color, including someone else of mixed race and a man of Indian heritage. Several LGBTQ+ characters portrayed with depth; a gay character's relationship angst fuels a key subplot. Directed and written by women. Mental illness is somewhat played for laughs, as characters endure extreme treatment for OCD.
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Violence & Scariness
Discussion of miscarriages and people who have died. A fire is set in a bar. A car nearly swerves off-road several times and bumps a cow. Fist fights, slapping. Arguments. Some slapstick moments.
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Sex, Romance & Nudity
Kissing and sexual situations, including a failed threesome, an impulsive hook-up, and two people having sex while standing up in a work closet. There's no graphic/explicit imagery, but people are shown shirtless, nearly naked, or in their underwear. Infidelity. Raunchy/suggestive language includes mention of being "wet," "anal sex," "young ass," "lube," "69," and "penis-shaped cups." One character helps another put her underwear back on
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Tons of swearing, including "f--k," "mother-----r," "s--t," "d--k," "bitch," "damn," "c--t," "penis," "ass," "a--hole," "boobs," "butt," "barf," "dumb," "barf," "twat," "turd," "whoring," "dumb," "hell," "oh my God," "dear God," "Jesus Christ," "Christ's sakes," "suck," "stupid," "wiener," and "wanker."
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Products & Purchases
Taco Bell is prominently featured. Also JC Penney, MacBook, Paddington, Uber, Instagram, Grindr, fancy cars, London sites, Troll dolls, and people who are fabulously wealthy.
Drinking, Drugs & Smoking
Adults drink heavily (mostly wine, beer), often to excess, leading to vomiting and hangovers. A character takes "pot gummies" to get through a long flight and acts high/altered as a result.
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Parents Need to Know
Parents need to know that The People We Hate at the Wedding is an often raunchy comedy based on the book by Grant Ginder. Characters drink too much, are mean to others, have affairs, keep secrets, and generally get into trouble. But family members also are portrayed as the people who will love each other unconditionally, and there are positive representations of gay characters and people of color. Over-indulging leads to vomiting and hangovers, and one character takes pot gummies to get through a long flight, acting high/altered as a result. Expect plenty of kissing and adult but non-graphic sexual situations, including a failed threesome, two people having sex in a work closet, a divorced couple who fall into bed together, and two people who hook up after just meeting. People are shown nearly naked and/or in their underwear. Suggestive language includes mention of being "wet," "anal sex," "young ass," and "lube"; other language (which is pretty constant) includes "f--k," "s--t," "damn," "c--t," "d--k," "penis," "ass," and more. Allison Janney, Kristen Bell, and Ben Platt star. To stay in the loop on more movies like this, you can sign up for weekly Family Movie Night emails.
Is It Any Good?
This snappy comedy about a family who just can't seem to get along but who also love each other deeply has some very funny scenes as characters free fall into excess. But there are also moments in The People We Hate at the Wedding where you lose sympathy for the characters. Even if you understand the emotional pain driving their behavior, you might hate them well before the climactic wedding happens. But, perhaps predictably, the film turns things around and lets better angels prevail by the end.
Chalk the successful line-toeing in this film up to the talented ensemble cast, led by Bell, Janney, and Platt, whose characters are just barely in control of their lives. Wondering whether they'll spin out completely is part of the fun, and we watch with a mixture of curiosity and trepidation alongside their lovers -- Jonathan, Dennis, Henrique, Dominic, and Alcott (all well cast, especially Mulligan and Soni). Also in the background are some laughably quirky scenarios -- very literal OCD treatments, a failed threesome, and a wedding full of Brits warning, "the Americans are coming!" Through it all, Donna thinks her kids are perfect. And the film's theme of unconditional love, purposefully hard to comprehend or at times even abide by, comes through in her character.
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