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The Secrets We Keep
By Tara McNamara,
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Mature themes, sexual violence in tense post-WWII thriller.

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What's the Story?
In THE SECRETS WE KEEP, it's been some 15 years since World War II ended, and Maja (Noomi Rapace), who's from Romania, has created a wonderful life in the United States as a loving wife, a doting mother, and a valuable member of her community. When a man (Joel Kinnaman) moves to town who seems all too familiar, Maja believes he's the Nazi soldier who terrorized her during the war -- and decides that the only way to move on is by taking him on.
Is It Any Good?
Writer-director Yuval Adler creates a unique way to keep viewers in suspense: Have them fear all outcomes. It's no coincidence that Maja spots the man she believes was her attacker underneath a marquee that advertises North by Northwest: The Secrets We Keep rises to Hitchcock comparisons. That said, while his stories kept you on the edge of your seat, whatever was going on with the characters had nothing to do with you personally. Here, Adler crafts a drama that will likely prompt viewers to have an uncomfortable debate in their own heads, asking questions that fill them with self-doubt. And, as far as what's going on on-screen, that's just as unpredictable.
Not a hair is out of place in this tidy film. The costumes and set design details are on point, from Maja's red lipstick and chic late-'50s jeans to Lewis' bland medical offices. The performances by Rapace, Kinnaman, and Chris Messina are remarkable: They're all faces we know, but not so much that we get distracted. The script is tight, with information revealed just when we need it and not a moment before. Part of the excellence comes from exploring less covered territory, like memory loss within trauma, survivor's guilt, and how some Romanians were affected by World War II. Most extraordinarily, the film suggests we need to take a closer look at what it really takes for someone to heal.
Talk to Your Kids About ...
Families can talk about how the filmmakers play with viewers' sense of right and wrong in The Secrets We Keep. Can revenge be justified? Where is the line between justice and revenge?
The movie raises a provocative question: Putting appropriate punishment aside, do victims heal through offering forgiveness, or through retribution? Is there anyone or any act that's not worthy of forgiveness, regardless of the perpetrator's remorse (or lack thereof)?
How is smoking portrayed in the film? Is it historically accurate? Does that affect its impact on kids?
Movie Details
- In theaters: September 16, 2020
- On DVD or streaming: October 20, 2020
- Cast: Noomi Rapace , Joel Kinnaman , Chris Messina
- Director: Yuval Adler
- Studio: Bleecker Street
- Genre: Thriller
- Topics: History
- Run time: 97 minutes
- MPAA rating: R
- MPAA explanation: strong violence, rape, some nudity, language and brief sexuality.
- Last updated: February 22, 2023
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