The Spy Who Dumped Me

Movie review by
Tara McNamara, Common Sense Media
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Bullets and profanity fly in feminist friendship comedy.
  • R
  • 2018
  • 116 minutes

Parents say

age 16+
Based on 19 reviews

Kids say

age 14+
Based on 19 reviews

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Positive Messages

Characters frequently rely on violence. But the movie also says that women are capable of doing anything they choose. Offers a clear example of true friendship: supportive, encouraging, dependable, and always having each other's back. Themes also include communication and teamwork.

Positive Role Models & Representations

Goes out of its way to make sure viewers understand that women are tough, capable, clever, and intelligent in all kinds of roles: leader of an intelligence agency, DJ, assassin, even civilians unintentionally pulled into a government operation. When it’s unclear who to trust, the women are thoughtful about trying to make good choices (although that doesn't always work out) -- including wearing seatbelts and putting on the turn signal during a car chase. Women never put each other down, but rather try to lift each other up. A main character has a close relationship with her two loving parents. All of that said, the main characters also engage in over-the-top behavior that may make parents cringe.


Lots of weapons used, and main characters are in constant peril. Frequent gunplay, with blood spraying and characters being shot at close range, often resulting in death. Other weapons include grenades, knives, boiling liquid, and a cannonball. Hand-to-hand combat features bloody beatings, strangling, and neck breaking. Characters are tortured. Helmeted motorcyclists are thrown from their bikes and hit by a bus. Menacing threats are made, including one in which a male character is told his genitalia will be cut off. A body part is sawed off and carried around. A character is gored. 


Male nudity -- both full frontal and backside. A woman is shown in her bra and underwear. A casual sexual encounter is implied in a humorous context and results in a negative consequence. Crude remarks about breasts, a penis, and a sex act. Discussion of sexting. One character’s genitals are part of a central plot point. Two characters break up; the beginning of their romance is shown in detail. Kissing. Cleavage-revealing dresses. Women are in control of their sexuality. 


Frequent swearing, including repeated use of "f--k." Also "bitch," "boobs," "d--k," "nut sack," "a--hole," "s--t," and "t-t." "God" and "Jesus" used as exclamations. Frequent body humor, too; two scenes revolve around the discussion of defecating. 


Events unfold at a Cirque du Soleil show. Harvard University, the Cheesecake Factory, and Progresso are mentioned.

Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

Characters hang out at bars and buy and drink beer/alcohol. Driving under the influence of drugs is a punchline. Cocaine, crack, and pot mentioned for humor. A cigarette is shown but not used. It's said that a likable character sold prescription drugs.

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that The Spy Who Dumped Me is a bawdy buddy action comedy that offers a strong message of friendship amid the over-the-top espionage mayhem. Main characters Audrey (Mila Kunis) and Morgan (Kate McKinnon) define "I'll be there for you": bolstering each other's self-confidence, communicating/working as a team, supporting each other through the good and very bad, and going above and beyond to look out for each other. But there's more blood and gore than you might expect in a comedy, including lots of weapons (especially guns, sometimes shot point-blank), brutal beatings, torture, sawn-off body parts, and more. One brutal fight sequence features a naked man whose genitals are shown from various angles. Profanity flows, especially "f--k," and there's plenty of sexual content, including kissing, crude sex talk, skimpy outfits, etc. (though women are portrayed as in control of their sexuality). Characters drink and talk about drugs; driving under the influence is a punchline. But in the end, the movie encourages women to look a little deeper at their own skill set and embrace new challenges -- and to never underestimate themselves, or each other.

User Reviews

  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Parent of a 11 and 15-year-old Written byAFishFam July 15, 2019

Female Spy Comedy - Funny!

My husband and I watched the first 20 minutes and were laughing so our teenage daughters heard us and were curious about what we were watching. Usually we don... Continue reading
Adult Written byld2302 December 30, 2018

It was okay but not for younger teens

It showed private male parts and had a lot of talk about women and men parts. The swearing was not to much but it was there.
Teen, 13 years old Written byMovieDude2000 October 17, 2018

Ok, Ok......

This movie was awesome. A lot more of a violent R Rated Movie, amd a lot less of the sex component. Anyone age 12 and up can enjoy this movie.
Teen, 13 years old Written byeuphoriclen April 12, 2019

Good, but some issues.

Just from the trailer and news about this movie, people may think that it is suitable for children aged 11/12. This is a great movie, however there is a scene o... Continue reading

What's the story?

In THE SPY WHO DUMPED ME, Audrey (Mila Kunis) believes she can't finish anything she starts. So when she learns that her ex-boyfriend, Drew (Justin Theroux), is actually a CIA agent who's being chased by assassins, she's determined to finish his assignment to save lives -- including her own. Audrey and her best friend, Morgan (Kate McKinnon), hop a plane to Europe, winging a plan to infiltrate the spy ring. The deeper they get, the more unclear it becomes who to trust, the more severe the consequences, and the more they realize that they're kind of good at this spy gig.

Is it any good?

This often hilarious action comedy is a great pick for a ladies' (not girls' -- it's not for kids!) night out: The fun is increased exponentially by how many friends are watching with you. McKinnon has established herself as a master of character creation, and Morgan is her most down-to-earth (but still hysterical) personality yet. And Kunis is credible as an everywoman, making an over-the-top situation relatable. Writer-director Susanna Fogel lets viewers play along, evaluating the decisions they might make in those circumstances.   

Stories about female friendship often have a moment in which women have a rift or a misunderstanding that must be resolved. Fogel avoids this cliché, demonstrating that real women are much more about encouragement and support than tearing each other down or leaving each other behind. What's most notable is that time is devoted to point out the strengths of all the women, even the female villains. Fogel uses the big screen to show that women can be tough and capable without sacrificing their femininity -- the tough female assassin is just as comfortable on the runway as she is toting a machine gun. It's not just Audrey who learns she can do anything; by making this movie, Fogel proves that women can clearly succeed in areas it's been believed they "can't" -- including writing and directing a violent action-adventure comedy that features beautiful cinematography in exotic locations.

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about whether The Spy Who Dumped Me defies gender stereotypes by depicting women in a variety of roles. How does it compare to other action/spy movies? Do you think it's beneficial to see women in "bad guy" roles? Why or why not?

  • Audrey and Morgan don't know who to trust, but they work well together to try to do the right thing. How do their communication skills enhance their teamwork

  • How does the violence in The Spy Who Dumped Me compare to what you might see in movies more focused on action than comedy? Does the movie's tone change the impact of the content? Does exposure to violent movies make kids more aggressive?

  • Do you think the movie's strong language has a purpose? Do curse words make lines funnier? Would the movie have worked without as much swearing?

  • Audrey has a lot of self-doubt. Where do you think that thinking comes from? Do you have friends who think that way? What do you do to encourage them?

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