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Tearjerker has mature themes, salty language, some humor.
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The Starling
What's the Story?
Lilly (Melissa McCarthy) and Jack (Chris O'Dowd) are grieving the death of their baby a year ago at the start of THE STARLING. While Jack is receiving care and therapy in a live-in clinic, Lilly tries to carry on with life, fumbling through her day job in a big box store and maintaining their sprawling farmhouse and garden. Convinced Lilly could use someone to talk to as well, Jack's therapist recommends a former colleague who is now a veterinarian, Larry Fine (Kevin Kline). When Lilly is attacked by an aggressive bird on her property, Larry's vet skills also come in handy, but ultimately Lilly and Jack will each have to figure out on their own how to move on and continue their lives together.
Is It Any Good?
This calculated tearjerker is heavy on emotional symbolism but offers a showcase for its two impressive lead actors, Melissa McCarthy and Chris O'Dowd. In fact, The Starling is totally dependent on McCarthy's believability as a big box store clerk stoically marching on after tragedy, and on her and O'Dowd's ability to carry both the drama and the humor. McCarthy's deadpan delivery and knack for physical comedy are well-known, but here she's also called on to convey deep emotional trauma, anger, frustration, uncertainty, and more, often in close-up shots while driving or sitting alone at home. Perhaps best known as the perennial good guy in Bridesmaids, O'Dowd matches her: his slouchy demeanor, cheeky face, and Irish brogue are the outward signs of his droll, despairing character. He has one of the most heartrending scenes in the film, with no spoken lines, when he faces a vital choice alone in his room. Kevin Kline exudes his usual paternal pathos, though it comes as almost a relief when his Dr. Fine admits he doesn't have all the answers either.
The film works hard not to wallow in melancholy, conspicuously weaving the heaviest scenes together back-to-back with lighter ones. Jack's therapy sessions, for example, are often followed by scenes of Lilly gardening in a helmet or arguing crazily with a bird. An apparently very serious fall off a ladder is oddly played for humor. Lilly seems to do a lot of driving in this rural setting, perhaps symbolizing the journey she's on -- and with no clear destination at first. Likewise, the symbolism is ripe as she preps a field to replant an abandoned garden. These are just some of the overly obvious choices the film makes to set the mood and explain its characters, ultimately unnecessary considering the intensity of the event at its heart. The lack of subtlety in the animal analogies is even discussed by the characters ("Real subtle, Larry," Lilly jokes). But tellingly, the birds are actually superfluous to this story of two people trying to start their lives again after unthinkable heartbreak.
Talk to Your Kids About ...
Families can talk about whether they felt empathy for both Jack and Lilly in The Starling or not, and why.
Larry mentions the stages of grief. Have you heard of these? Where could you go for more information?
How does Lilly demonstrate perseverance? How does this both help and hinder her grieving process? Why is this an important character strength?
How did the music in this film complement the story and the characters' journeys?
How does the movie combine humor and drama? What genre would you call this movie, and why?
Movie Details
- In theaters : September 17, 2021
- On DVD or streaming : September 24, 2021
- Cast : Melissa McCarthy , Chris O'Dowd , Kevin Kline
- Director : Theodore Melfi
- Inclusion Information : Female Movie Actor(s)
- Studio : Netflix
- Genre : Drama
- Topics : Animals ( Wild Animals )
- Character Strengths : Perseverance
- Run time : 104 minutes
- MPAA rating :
- MPAA explanation : thematic material, some strong language and suggestive material
- Last updated : September 29, 2025
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