The Tinder Swindler

The Tinder Swindler
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A Lot or a Little?
The parents' guide to what's in this movie.
What Parents Need to Know
Parents need to know that The Tinder Swindler is a documentary about a con man, women looking for love, and a lavish European lifestyle. There's a lot of language ("f--k," "s--t," "bulls--t," "hell," "bitch," and more,) and some subtext about women falling more easily for men with extreme wealth. The three Scandinavian women who brought the case again the con man to light did so with the help of a group of journalists. They showed courage in going public with their stories and even putting themselves potentially in harm's way. The man convinced the women his life was in danger, showing them pictures of his bloodied bodyguard, and that they were in danger too; he also threatened them. One woman says she considered killing herself she was so distraught by the amount of debt she had incurred on his behalf. The man also showered them with attention, gifts, friendship, and luxury vacations. There are some scenes and images with kissing or people in bed under covers, and mention of spending nights together, as well as Tinder pictures and banter ("send nudes," "hook up"). People party and drink alcohol.
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What's the Story?
THE TINDER SWINDLER begins with the story of London-based Norwegian woman Cecilie Fjellhoy, who meets the man of her dreams on Tinder. Apparently the son and heir of a global diamond business, "Simon Leviev" swoops her off in his private jet on a 5-star vacation on their very first date. She falls in love and the two plan to move in together, until one day he calls to tell her his life is in danger and he needs her to send him money. Thus begins Fjellhoy's descent into massive debt on his behalf. When his promises to pay her back keep falling through, she gets suspicious. Swede Pernilla Sjoholm tells a similar story of a whirlwind friendship that involved a summer of expensive partying on the Mediterranean and eventual requests for more and more cash. When Ayleen Charlotte figures out her boyfriend's real identity, Israeli Shimon Hayut, she vows revenge. Will the women be able to make their stories public and stop Simon from conning more women, potentially putting him behind bars?
Is It Any Good?
The true crime behind this documentary is shocking, heartbreaking, and aggravating all at once -- in other words, great material. The Tinder Swindler director Felicity Morris has compiled the evidence in a way that captures and holds your attention and builds suspense, especially as the con man's scheme starts crumbling in the second half of the movie. In this engrossing unraveling, the victims take matters into their own hands, putting themselves at potential risk and involving an investigative journalistic team. That's not to say the film is perfect in its blend of interviews (why is the lighting so dark on the two main interviewees?), classic film footage (used at the start then dropped), attractive B-roll of key cities, posted pictures and videos, omnipresent mood-setting music, and a few too many screen shots of Google searches, Tinder scrolling, and WhatsApp messages.
But, much like the film's poster suggests the swindler did to the women, this story hooks you. It also seems to carry a warning for our modern virtual lives. As one woman puts it, "One little swipe can change your life forever." Yet the moral might also be: "If it looks too good to be true, it probably is." And also: Don't blame the victim. When an expose of the swindler is posted online on a Norwegian news site, the women who came forward to tell their stories to help capture the perpetrator suffer the backlash of commentary blaming them for being gullible or, worse, gold-digging. There is certainly an intention here to uncover insights into what women are looking for in a relationship or from a man. One of the women describes forming her ideas of love from Disney films. She also later admits she's still on Tinder even after the swindler took her for loads of money and led her to thoughts of suicide. That admission comes in an epilogue which provides closure for viewers -- but not as much for the people involved as one might hope.
Talk to Your Kids About ...
Families can talk about the pros and cons of online dating sites like Tinder, highlighted in The Tinder Swindler.
Can you think of other ways this story could've been told on film -- or still could be? What are they?
How would you characterize the role of the Norwegian journalists in this story?
Were you surprised by the outcome of the story, as explained in the epilogue? Why or why not?
Movie Details
- On DVD or streaming: February 2, 2022
- Cast: Cecilie Fjellhoy, Pernilla Sjoholm, Ayleen Charlotte
- Director: Felicity Morris
- Studio: Netflix
- Genre: Documentary
- Character Strengths: Courage
- Run time: 114 minutes
- MPAA rating: NR
- Last updated: February 28, 2022
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