The Virgin Suicides

Movie review by
Nell Minow, Common Sense Media
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Intense movie about teen suicide; violence, sex.
  • R
  • 2000
  • 97 minutes

Parents say

age 14+
Based on 6 reviews

Kids say

age 14+
Based on 10 reviews

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Positive Messages

Neighbors of the family whose daughters are committing suicide seem to see the suicides as something to gossip about. Local news media seem to view teen suicide as a topic to sensationalize. 

Positive Role Models & Representations

No positive role models. Adults come across as either excessively severe, clueless, dogmatic, or smug in their interactions with their children and the world around them. 


Suicide and attempted suicide graphically shown. A 13-year-old girl is shown getting rescued from the bathtub after attempting to slit her wrists; some blood. This girl later kills herself by jumping out of her bedroom window and getting impaled on one of the spikes of the front yard wrought-iron fence. A girl found dead by hanging, shown from the legs down. Talk of how the other sisters killed themselves -- one stuck her head in the oven, another overdosed on sleeping pills, and another is found in a running car dead from carbon monoxide poisoning. A girl was left passed out in the middle of a football field after having sex with her prom date; he left her there.


A teen girl has sex on her roof; the boys who are obsessed with her and her sisters observe through binoculars. This same girl was left passed out in the middle of a football field after having sex with her prom date; he left her there. In a montage, a series of teen boys brag of the sex and foreplay they claim to have had after they each went out with the same girl. No nudity. 


Occasional profanity. "S--t," "bitch," "for Christ's sake." Sexual innuendo: In a montage, a series of teen boys brag to other teen boys about the sex or foreplay they claim to have had with the same girl. 

Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

Teen marijuana and cigarette smoking. A teen boy bribes his friend three joints to go to the prom with his date's sister. Teens drink alcohol at the prom -- one of the girls is peer-pressured by her sister into drinking. Teens shown getting drunk at a formal party; the adults seem aware but unconcerned. Adults drink beer. Teen shown vomiting from drinking. One of the teen boys is shown later in life to be attending rehab. Cigar smoking. 

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that The Virgin Suicides is a 1999 drama in which a group of sisters whose suicides in the mid-1970s remain a source of mystery 25 years later. An attempted suicide is shown as a 13-year-old girl in a bathtub is rescued after slitting her wrists; there's some blood, and she wears gauze wrapped around her wrists in the ensuing scenes. Later, this same girl is found dead from jumping out of her bedroom window and getting impaled on a spike of the front yard wrought-iron fence. Later suicides are briefly shown or discussed in voice-overs. Adults come across as either clueless or smug in their responses to teen suicide. The local news media comes off as viewing teen suicide as a topic to sensationalize. Teens smoke marijuana, drink to excess, smoke cigarettes. A girl is shown waking up alone in the middle of the football field after having sex with her prom date, who left her there passed out. This girl is later shown having sex on the roof of her house. A mentally challenged teen boy is an object of ridicule by other teens at a basement party. In a brief montage, a series of teen boys brag to other teen boys about the sex or foreplay they claim to have had with the same girl during their dates. Teens and adults are shown getting drunk together at a formal party; adults are unconcerned even as some of the teens start to get out of hand by falling into the pool, throwing up, etc. Occasional profanity includes "s--t," "bitch," and "for Christ's sake."

User Reviews

  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Adult Written byAmelia P. May 6, 2021


It was a very interesting film that I definitely recommend watching. It shows us parents not to suffocate our kids
Adult Written bydvdgirl August 4, 2019

I enjoyed it

I like josh harnett guess thats the reason why I enjoyed this movie and Kristen is beautiful.
Teen, 13 years old Written byiamfairymonkey May 5, 2011

Good movie for kids 13+ who aren't sensitive babies, but sprouting, maturing, young adults who want to learn some lessons.

I am 13, and yes, I watched it. I really disagree about the rating of 'The Virgin Suicides'. Though the whole suicide thing may be hard for some of us... Continue reading
Teen, 16 years old Written bycurioser January 20, 2021

What's the story?

Set in the mid-1970s, THE VIRGIN SUICIDES is the story of five exquisitely beautiful sisters who dazzle and beguile the boys around them. Amid the idyllic suburban stillness, there are intimations that all is not right. Huge elm trees are diagnosed with Dutch Elm Disease and ordered to be cut down. And the youngest of the Lisbon girls, only 13, tries to kill herself. The doctor shakes his head, "You're not even old enough to know how bad life gets." She looks up at him, sadly, wrists wrapped in white gauze, "Obviously, doctor, you've never been a 13-year-old girl." A quarter of a century has passed, but the boys who longed for the Lisbon sisters can't forget them. They hold on to relics and totems: a diary, scribbled notes decorated with hearts and stickers. And they tell each other over and over the events of that time, hoping that this time they will make sense. There is no explanation for the unthinkably terrible act, and the movie doesn't try to provide one. Like the boys, we pore over their lives, looking for a point at which they might have made a different choice.

Is it any good?

First-time director Sophia Coppola, who also wrote the screenplay, based on the book by Jeffrey Eugenides, has a wonderful eye for detail and composition. The production design is perfect in every detail. There are painfully accurate moments as teenagers try to make conversation ("How'd your SATs go?" "You're a stone fox!") and connection (when the boys finally call the girls on the phone, all they can bring themselves to do is play records to them). Kirsten Dunst is marvelous as the most adventuresome of the girls, and Josh Hartnett is fine as the high school hunk with a broken heart for every puka shell around his neck. And the narration, beautifully read by Giovanni Ribisi, is lyrical and moving.

But ultimately, the movie falters. It tries for metaphor -- those dying elm trees, an asphyxiation-themed debutante party at which people wear gas masks decorated with glitter, the girls as princesses in a tower waiting for princes who can't save them. And it tries for distance from its time or milieu. But like the collection the boys hold onto for years, the movie has "not life, but the most trivial list of mundane facts."

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about how The Virgin Suicides addresses teen suicide. How does it convey a time when society was just beginning to come to grips with the problem? What are the various ways in which the adults respond after the first suicide? 

  • This movie is based on a novel. What would be the challenges in adapting a novel into a movie? How does the movie use different viewpoints in a way that might be similar to a novel? 

  • What are some of the ways in which the mid-1970s are conveyed through things like clothes, music, and rapidly evolving changes in values and beliefs in the culture at large? 

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