Parents' Guide to The Wedding Guest

Movie R 2019 94 minutes
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Jeffrey M. Anderson By Jeffrey M. Anderson , based on child development research. How do we rate?

age 16+

Too-realistic take on pulpy kidnapping story has violence.

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What's the Story?

In THE WEDDING GUEST, a man (Dev Patel) prepares for a mysterious trip: packing, renting a car. He makes a stop to buy guns and then reaches his destination, a wedding in Pakistan. He claims to be an old college roommate of the groom's, so the family takes him in and gives him dinner. Later, the man breaks in to the compound, kidnaps the bride-to-be (Radhika Apte), and shoots a guard. It seems that the man has been hired by the woman's other lover, a gangster (Jim Sarbh), to give her one more chance to choose the man she wants to be with. After a trip to India and an argument over money, the gangster is left behind, and the kidnapper and the woman hit the road together. They're now on a mission to find a quick, realistic-looking passport for her -- and a place to hide forever.

Is It Any Good?

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It could have been a slick romantic comedy, or perhaps an action-packed crime film with lots of playful flirting, but instead this drama, steeped in somber realism, is lifeless and forgettable. The Wedding Guest comes from veteran director Michael Winterbottom, who tends to specialize in serious, realistic movies (with the occasional dry comedy or literary adaptation thrown in), and whose ambition sometimes transcends and eclipses his material. In this case, he's taken a pretty simple, almost old-fashioned crime story, and pulled back from it, telling it as if it were happening in the real world, in modern times. It just feels mismatched.

Winterbottom follows the kidnapper character as he takes care of the various details of his assignment:-buying duct tape, renting two cars to throw the law off the trail, etc. A genre film would have shown how these errands snapped into place and added up to something. The Wedding Guest simply stumbles over them, as if they never mattered. Even worse, the main relationship should have had some kind of spark, but it feels mechanical and plot-driven, especially given Patel's constantly grim-faced performance. In other words, the movie could have been fun, but it isn't; could have been romantic or exciting, but it isn't. Sometimes realism isn't all it's cracked up to be.

Talk to Your Kids About ...

  • Families can talk about The Wedding Guest's violence. How intense is it? Is it thrilling or shocking? What consequences are there (if any)?

  • How is sex depicted? What values are imparted?

  • Does the movie glorify smoking? Does it look cool? What about drinking and pot smoking? Are there any consequences? Why does that matter?

  • Is the bride-to-be merely a kidnap victim, or is she able to assert her own strengths and act on her own needs?

Movie Details

  • In theaters : March 1, 2019
  • On DVD or streaming : October 8, 2019
  • Cast : Dev Patel , Radhika Apte , Jim Sarbh
  • Director : Michael Winterbottom
  • Inclusion Information : Indian/South Asian Movie Actor(s) , Female Movie Actor(s)
  • Studio : IFC Films
  • Genre : Thriller
  • Run time : 94 minutes
  • MPAA rating : R
  • MPAA explanation : language, some violence and brief nudity
  • Last updated : September 15, 2022

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