Then Came You

Movie review by
Tara McNamara, Common Sense Media
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Saucy senior romcom is cute; sexual humor, drinking.
  • PG-13
  • 2020
  • 97 minutes

Parents say

age 15+
Based on 6 reviews

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A lot or a little?

The parents' guide to what's in this movie.

Positive Messages

You're never too old to live your dreams. Theme of getting through grief and moving on after the loss of a spouse.

Positive Role Models

Annabelle is an outgoing, magnetic, and confident woman who speaks up for herself and treats others well. No notable diversity within the cast.


Lots of innuendo and jokes about innocent words that sound dirty. Kissing. A couple talks about the sex they had. Sexual jokes that involve animals. A woman is confident about her sexuality and pursues a man romantically without feeling obligated to him.


Strong language includes: "ass," "a--hole," "bulls--t," "shut up," "stupid," "s--t," and "f--king." Middle-finger gesture.


Apple laptop shown with logo out. Joke about Spanx. A classic Triumph roadster is prominently featured.

Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

Frequent drinking, with talk of getting drunk.

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that Then Came You is a romantic comedy targeted at Baby Boomers that takes place in Scotland and deals with finding happiness after losing a spouse. Written by and starring Kathie Lee Gifford, it has plenty of the kind of wink-wink racy humor that those who watched her on morning TV might be expecting. For instance, there's a gag about a British dish called "spotted dick" and a plumbing valve known as a "petcock." That said, even though innuendos fly frequently and there's talk about having sex, the actual moment, when it happens, takes place completely off camera. Expect to see characters drinking frequently and hear occasional profanity, including "s--t" and "f--k."

User Reviews

  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Adult Written byalm260 October 5, 2020

Disappointed in the anti-Biblical messages pushed in the movie

This could have been a wholesome Rom Com movie but Gifford ruined it with her anti-Biblical screenplay which focused on numerous and inappropriate sexual joking... Continue reading
Adult Written byHarmony4me March 7, 2021

A feel good movie

Wasn't sure what to expect from Kathie Lee Gifford but darned, she did a great job. Yes, much was predictable but there was so many artfully placed chuck... Continue reading

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What's the story?

In THEN CAME YOU, an outgoing, talkative Nantucket widow named Annabelle (Kathie Lee Gifford) makes plans to travel the world with her late husband's ashes. At her first stop in Scotland, she falls for charming but closed-off innkeeper Howard (Craig Ferguson), whose wedding to businesswoman Clare (Elizabeth Hurley) is only days away.

Is it any good?

Get these two a TV show: The former morning show personality and former late night host make such an adorable, funny team on film that they leave you wanting more. Gifford wrote the screenplay for Then Came You, and it feels like Ferguson likely did quite a bit of improv. As a result, both stars glow in their roles. There's nothing new here: The film kicks off with a voiceover of the emails the two sent to each other as strangers, and when they meet, they clash like "a cat and a dog," as they say repeatedly. And of course, you know they're totally going to fall in love. While the movie follows all the usual beats of a romantic comedy, and you can never wholly accept Gifford and Ferguson as their fictional personas, it's still entertaining.

The question is, will teens be keen on a film about a sexy grandma? Gifford is constantly revealing bits of skin: crying in a sweater that's -- whoops! -- slipped off the shoulder, singing an entire song (that she wrote) in a bubble bath, and displaying her age-defying gams at every turn. It's kind of fantastic: Women of her age are rarely portrayed in this manner in mainstream media. And this tale may just work for teens because the older characters' romance is balanced with immature humor -- jokes that are funny because they seem outrageous but aren't technically over the line. Plus, Annabelle and Howard may not be the only ones who fall in love: It will be tough not to be enchanted by the gorgeous Scottish countryside -- and, whoa, that castle! "Awd's Inn," better known as Ardkinglas House in Argyll, Scotland, is definitely old and falling apart, but dang, she'll take your breath away. Maybe the film's greater message is even if we don't technically get better with age, the years don't diminish our shine. 

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about how Then Came You compares to other romantic comedies. Who's the target audience? How can you tell?

  • How do Annabelle and Howard rediscover love and happiness while respecting their late spouses? Is there a "right" way to move on after loss?

  • Does the movie glamorize drinking? Are there realistic consequences? Why does that matter?

  • Gifford wrote the screenplay and the movie's songs after her husband's death. Why do you think grief, depression, and sadness often fuel creativity?

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