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By Brian Costello, Common Sense Media Reviewer

age 16+

Slasher horror set at gay conversion camp; violence.

Movie NR 2022 90 minutes
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age 13+

Based on 1 parent review

age 13+

A pretty good horror movie!

*Spoilers ahead!* . . I watched this movie with my trans son, who is 11. The sex scenes linger too long in my opinion- we ended up fast-forwarding thru those. We also fast-forwarded thru the “aversion therapy” scene. The ending was definitely a surprise, and the kids of the camp do get a happy ending. Trigger warning for those who are LGBTQIA+ as there are slurs used against the poor children (like dy**), the children are misgendered and a poor trans girl is forced to dress in “boy” clothes. So it can be a bit rough, but like I said these kids DO get a happy ending! . . We especially rooted for the lead character, Jordan, an especially brave kid who I’d say is definitely a positive role model for kids. Honestly the kids at the camp are mostly positive role models, sure some girls smoked a joint and they’re sexually active but that’s hardly the worst. The most important thing is the kids learn to love themselves as they are, or at least they hopefully have started the journey to self acceptance.

This title has:

Great messages
Great role models
Too much violence
Too much sex

Is It Any Good?

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This is a slasher movie that combines the horror of ax murders with the real horrors of gay conversion camps. They/Them essentially replaces the teen archetypes of '80s horror movies with LGBTQ+ characters either forced to attend or voluntarily attending a camp that purports to be a "safe space" for the campers to discover who they "really" are, with all the talk of "inclusion" being a lie before we learn what's really going on.

Kevin Bacon plays Owen, the camp director, and while it's definitely a nod to his younger association with Friday the 13th, he's also perfect as the "cool and tolerant adult authority figure who's obviously not cool nor tolerant." His therapist wife, Cora, played by Carrie Preston, is perhaps the evilest character in the movie, using her skills as a weapon to negate and humiliate the identities and personalities of these teen characters who are already going through so much. Theo Germaine plays Jordan, a trans nonbinary camper who displays an acting range rarely seen in teen slasher movies, particularly in the scene with Cora. The movie might be too preachy for some, and it skirts dangerously close to self-indulgence that nearly ruins it (the camper singalong to a well-known Pink song is likely to come across as being clichéd). On the whole, though, it knows and even celebrates the conventions of '80s slasher camp movies, and this form is ideally suited to highlight the all-too-real horror of gay conversion camps. The movie's messages of acceptance and remaining true to yourself are relevant and necessary.

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