To the Bone

Movie review by
Renee Schonfeld, Common Sense Media
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Compelling but mature drama about eating disorders.
  • NR
  • 2017
  • 107 minutes

Parents say

age 15+
Based on 3 reviews

Kids say

age 13+
Based on 6 reviews

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A lot or a little?

The parents' guide to what's in this movie.

Positive Messages

People are challenged to make life-saving changes in the worst circumstances. In spite of past behavior and/or others' negative conduct, each character must ask, "How do I want to live?" Focuses on eating disorders as more a problem of the soul than the body. Themes include compassion, empathy, and perseverance.

Positive Role Models & Representations

The main character, who has an eating disorder, is encouraged to find the will to live. She learns that no one can be healed if they're resistant to being helped. Those in support of characters who are working through serious issues are asked to be unselfish, loyal, and clearheaded. Professionals charged with caring for people in crisis are shown to be responsible, determined, and compassionate. Most family members are portrayed as people who, despite their intentions, put their own emotional needs first -- but they seem to learn something about what their roles and conduct should be by the end of the movie. Father has distanced himself from his daughter. Diversity within the cast.

Violence

Disturbing scenes include -- spoiler alert -- a character's bruises (self-inflicted by overexercising), fainting in a public space, and someone shown struggling to survive in a desert. A young woman is shown on a bathroom floor after a bloody miscarriage. References to suicide.

Sex

Kissing and embracing. Frank sexual talk includes reference to masturbation, orgasm. A young woman is nude; no graphic nudity. Women shown in bras and panties.

Language

Frequent cursing, profanity, insults, and body references, including "f--k," "s--t," "bitch," "grow a pair," "balls," "Jesus Christ," "crap," "retarded," "p---y," "vagina," "boogers." 

Consumerism

Mega Gulp, Tsing Tao beer, Tumblr.

Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

Young man and woman drink beer. Cigarette smoking.

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that To the Bone follows Ellen (Lily Collins), a 20-year-old woman with an eating disorder, as she embarks on an uncertain and difficult journey toward recovery. It's not easy to watch; many intense, disturbing scenes show Ellen's struggles with food and body image, as well as those of others who are forced to confront their illnesses. Language is strong, including "f--k," "s--t," "p---y," and more. Characters kiss, cuddle, and have frank conversations about sex (expect references to orgasms, masturbation, and the like). There's also nonsexual nudity related to the main character's continuing health issues. Two scenes include underage drinking and cigarette smoking. Writer-director Marti Noxon tackles a very sensitive issue with the honesty and authenticity that come from having been there herself. While it's clear that her intentions aren't exploitative, there has been concern (some based on the movie's trailer) about the film's possible stereotyping or triggering of negative behavior among those with eating disorders. But rest assured that the movie has thoughtful messages about finding joy and beauty in life, discovering value in ourselves, and learning to survive the bad things that inevitably happen to everyone. It also promotes compassion, empathy, and perseverance.

 

User Reviews

Adult Written byRebecca S. July 17, 2017
Parent of a 10 and 18+ year old Written byPaula A. November 2, 2017

"To the Bone" review

I watched this movie, mainly because of the main characters, but I found myself immersed in the plot. I have a daughter that has been a stress eater since her... Continue reading
Teen, 13 years old Written byndeyell12 July 22, 2017

Graphic but compelling

The quality of this movie is outstanding, it is extremely realistic as the film centers the focus on eating disorders. I wouldn't be too worried about sex... Continue reading
Teen, 14 years old Written byShannonri August 4, 2017

It was pretty good

It was a good movie, but could be over some kids heads. I think it had a strong message.

What's the story?

Ellen (Lily Collins) hasn't responded to several rounds of intense rehab to help with her anorexia in TO THE BONE. While well-intentioned, Ellen's family -- including mom Judy (Lili Taylor), stepmom Susan (Carrie Preston), and Olive (Brooke Smith), her mother's partner -- proves ineffectual, actually managing to make matters worse, since each has issues that affect everyone's behavior. Only Ellen's half-sister, Kelly (Liana Liberato), seems to connect with the troubled young woman. A referral to Threshold, an in-patient facility for eating disorders that's headed by the unconventional Dr. William Beckham (Keanu Reeves), may be Ellen's last hope. She arrives with a chip on her shoulder and in a physical condition that's clearly fragile. Ellen firmly believes that she cannot eat and that she cannot change or succeed. It's a staggering challenge. And her housemates, including British dancer Lucas (Alex Sharp), are equally at risk. What follows, for Ellen and all those who interact with her, is a precarious journey, with both missteps and small victories that ultimately reveal the resilience of the human spirit.

Is it any good?

Despite its controversial subject matter, Marti Noxon's drama is a moving, believable film made with earnestness, sensitivity, and skill, as well as riveting performances. Candid, painful scenes are intercut with moments of sharp-edged humor and touching romance. Over the course of To the Bone, a largely dysfunctional family is treated with compassion rather than ridicule.

Given that both Noxon and Collins have acknowledged past histories of eating disorders, it’s clear that their intention is to bring authenticity and insight to the subject. To the Bone is a well-made film that should find a wide audience, encouraging empathy and compassion for Ellen and others who face similar challenges.

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about the nature and toll of eating disorders. What starts them? Ask teens if they know people struggling with these issues. If they do, have they told anyone? If not, why? Is To the Bone an accurate portrayal?  What resources can you use if you or someone you know has an eating disorder? 

  • Writer-director Marti Noxon has said that "[e]ating disorders are problems not of the body but of the soul." Do you agree with her? Why, or why not? Do you think she succeeds in presenting this point of view in To the Bone?

  • Were you surprised that Lucas had an eating disorder? How does that challenge commonly held stereotypes about those who suffer from eating disorders? Does the media have the responsibility to question stereotypes like these?

  • How would you describe Ellen's ultimate goal? Does the movie say clearly whether she is/will get there? Which character traits must she call on to achieve it? How does the movie emphasize the importance of compassion, empathy, and perseverance?

  • Which characters are role models in this movie, and why? Do characters have to be "perfect" to be role models?

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