A Lot or a Little?
What you will—and won't—find in this movie.
Not much in the way of positive messages.
Positive Role Models
No real role models.
Violence & Scariness
While drunk, one of the lead characters gets into a fight with two men. In the aftermath, lead character is shown with cuts, bruises, and blood on his face. While working as a real estate agent, the lead female character fends off an unwanted sexual advance: He leans in to kiss her, but she stops it and it goes no further.
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Sex, Romance & Nudity
The two lead characters talk about how they had orgasms the first time they had sex. They pretend to have sex while in a dorm room, making loud noises so that their flatmates can hear them. The male lead character and his male flatmate get into an animated discussion of their favorite porn stars, leading to the flatmate giving the lead character a disc of pornographic movies. Later, these two sell pirated pornographic movies at a makeshift black market inside a subway stop. Some sex talk among a family at the dinner table: A meddling adult asks the two lead characters if they're practicing safe sex.
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Regular profanity. "F--k" used a few times. Also "s--t," "bastard," "crap," "d--k," "damn," "hell."
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Products & Purchases
The film explores the materialistic tendencies of the lead characters.
Drinking, Drugs & Smoking
Characters are often drinking, often drunk. This leads to the lead character getting into a fistfight. Beer, wine, alcohol consumption. Characters frequently smoke cigarettes.
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Parents Need to Know
Parents need to know that Us and Them is a 2018 Chinese romantic drama spanning a 10-year relationship between a young man and woman that exists in the gray area between friends and lovers. The movie is in Chinese with English subtitles. Characters are often drinking alcohol and smoking cigarettes. In one scene, the lead male character gets severely drunk and then gets into a fistfight with two men. There's some sex: The two lead characters pretend to have sex in one scene, loudly moaning so their flatmates can hear them. After a lengthy discussion of favorite porn stars with a flatmate who copies and sells pirated pornographic films on the black market, the lead characters sell these pirated copies in a makeshift black market in a subway stop. Some profanity is heard, including "f--k" used a few times. Overall, the romantic melodrama might be too much for some viewers. However, the themes of young people coming of age in China during a time of rapid economic transformation, and how those societal values play a role in the characters' actions, could be a worthwhile family discussion. To stay in the loop on more movies like this, you can sign up for weekly Family Movie Night emails.
Is It Any Good?
This romantic drama feels like two movies in one. On one hand, there's a beautifully filmed romance centered on the dreams, passions, and ambitions of the two lead characters against a backdrop of China's continuing rapid economic transformations between 2007 and the present, and how the values of this society influence who they are and what they want. On the other hand, there is a mawkish melodrama that gradually takes over as the movie progresses to an overly emotional descent into the realm of cliché. The latter doesn't ruin the movie, but it comes close to doing so. Fortunately, the former transcends the genre and finds the universal experience in two people existing in the gray area between friendship and love while coming of age.
That said, the viewer doesn't necessarily have to be familiar with the recent history of China and the Chinese economy to follow the action, but such understanding might make the movie more enjoyable overall. There's a strong possibility that the nuance and intricacies of the Chinese culture and its impact on the story and these characters will be lost on Western audiences. The slower pace and the aforementioned melodrama might also turn off audiences looking for a romantic movie with a more straightforward story. But when it's good, Us and Them masterfully captures a moment in time and place, and how that time and place informed the values, dreams, and practical considerations of two young people in and out of love over 10 years.
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