Parents' Guide to We Broke Up

Movie NR 2021 80 minutes
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Tara McNamara By Tara McNamara , based on child development research. How do we rate?

age 15+

Marriage/breakup comedy has language, substance use.

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What's the Story?

In WE BROKE UP, longtime couple Lori (Aya Cash) and Doug (William Jackson Harper) end their relationship the day before Lori's sister, Bea (Sarah Bolger), gets married. But in order to not disrupt the wedding weekend, the ex-couple tries to pretend that everything is fine.

Is It Any Good?

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We Broke Up is a bit confusing because it gives off all the signs of being a comedy except one: It's not funny. The premise is relatable -- what if you broke up with your longtime love the day before a family member's wedding? The setting is wacky: a wedding at a summer camp! And the sitcom-famous actors in the cast deliver their lines as if they're in a comedy, but it's tough to crack a smile. Here's why: The subject matter is actually a downer. Instead of going for over-the top laughs -- like Bridesmaids or Wedding Crashers -- We Broke Up plays out absurd situations more dramatically. Ultimately, it's a fun-killer.

Worse, the conflict makes no sense. Lori and Doug break up because he blindsides her with an off-the-cuff marriage proposal and is then dismayed by her shocked reaction. So we're supposed to believe they've been living together in a monogamous, loving relationship for a decade and they've never discussed their feeings about marriage? C'mon. What's worse, none of the characters show any personal growth. All of that said, these stilted characters do enrich the cinematic circuit with much needed positive representation. Lori and Bea's mom isn't thrilled with Bea's marriage, but it's not because Jayson isn't Jewish -- it's because they're both immature. And Lori and Doug are of different races, but no one comments or has an issue with it. So few films exist about mature breakups -- ones in which couples love and appreciate each other but realize that their relationship is over. It's too bad this one isn't more enjoyable.

Talk to Your Kids About ...

  • Families can talk about the difficulties of breaking up, whether with friends or romantic partners. Does a breakup have to mean angry feelings? Why is it important for movies and the media to show that a couple can like and love each other but still decide to end their relationship for mature reasons?

  • How is substance use depicted? Is it glamorized? Are there realistic consequences? Why does that matter?

  • The film includes interfaith and interracial relationships without comment. How does that compare to films in which couples' differences in those areas create problems? Why are positive diverse representations in media important?

  • What clues does We Broke Up give viewers to how Lori and Bea's parents' divorce affected them? Why do you think they chose to let viewers figure it out, instead of making it more obvious?

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