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By Renee Schonfeld
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Dysfunctional family drama with violence, mature themes.
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We Don't Belong Here
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What's the Story?
Narrated by youngest daughter, Lily (Kaitlyn Dever), WE DON'T BELONG HERE moves between each member of the complicated, troubled Green family as their stories unfold. Matriarch mom, Nancy (Catherine Keener), widowed years earlier with her children, is struggling to understand and accept her four kids as young adults. With more than one of them diagnosed as bipolar, a homosexual son in crisis, an estranged pop singer-daughter in a destructive relationship, and a young teen dealing with both her illness and a budding sexual drive, Nancy is barely coping. She finds solace only in her relationship with longstanding best friend, Joanne (Maya Rudolph). Nancy becomes increasingly shaken when she can't contact son Max (Anton Yelchin). In a nonlinear format, significant action sequences mix with unsettling dreams and visions, along with revelatory flashbacks involving a traumatic sexual assault, to find these profoundly troubled characters trying to survive.
Is It Any Good?
Sincerity and strong performances aren't enough to make this complex story, with its many disturbing events and deeply troubled characters, coherent and satisfying. Peer Pedersen, in his first directorial effort, works with his own script as he tries to illuminate some of the weighty issues that challenge 21st century families. He uses a variety of cinematic devices to tell his tale in We Don't Belong Here. Some work, at least to a degree. Others are misleading and further obscure what is already a perplexing plot. A particularly jarring sequence, which requires the actors to reach great depths in their performances, ends up as a dishonest exercise. One can applaud the efforts and integrity of the creative team, but still report that there's simply too much packed into this bleak story of a disintegrating family to make it rewarding. Noteworthy as one of actor Anton Yelchin's final performances. Not for kids.
Talk to Your Kids About ...
Families can talk about the meaning of a "nonlinear" storytelling. In what ways was We Don't Belong Here an example of this kind of narrative?
Flashbacks, dreams, visions, and flash-forwards all contribute to this film's uniqueness. However, did inventive and interesting ever become confusing? When and why?
The writer-director took on the challenging task of portraying multiple, complex people in this film. Do you think he was successful? Why or why not? Did Lily's narration help clarify events and characters for you?
Movie Details
- On DVD or streaming : April 4, 2017
- Cast : Catherine Keener , Anton Yelchin , Kaitlyn Dever
- Director : Peer Pedersen
- Inclusion Information : Middle Eastern/North African Movie Actor(s) , Female Movie Actor(s)
- Studio : Sony Pictures Home Entertainment
- Genre : Drama
- Topics : Family Stories ( Siblings )
- Run time : 92 minutes
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- MPAA explanation : language
- Last updated : October 1, 2025
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