Wild About Harry

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Wild About Harry
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The parents' guide to what's in this movie.
What Parents Need to Know
Parents need to know that Wild About Harry (originally titled American Primitive), a 2009 drama based on director-writer Gwen Wynne's personal experience, is about two teenage girls who are grieving the recent loss of their mother when they learn that their doting father is gay. The 1970s setting poses the anti-gay attitudes of the time as the dramatic backdrop against which the characters struggle. Infrequent language includes "s--t," "ass," "homosexual," "queer," "f-g," and "menses." Adults drink alcohol and smoke cigarettes. Characters kiss. A teenage girl kisses a teenage boy. It's suggested she may have had sex with him. A gay man believes the word "homosexual" doesn't describe him because he doesn't have sex in bathhouses. A high school boy beats up a classmate on suspicion that he outed a friend's gay father. In-laws walk in on a gay man kissing another man and immediately take his kids away.
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What's the Story?
WILD ABOUT HARRY is about the destructive nature of secrets. The context is the 1970s, decades before laws allowed gay marriage and discouraged anti-gay discrimination. Harry (Tate Donovan) has relocated his two teenage daughters Maddy (Danielle Savre) and Daisy (Skye McCole Bartusiak) to Cape Cod after their mother's death. He immediately moves in with a business partner and lover named Theodore Gibbs (Adam Pascal), someone he has clearly been having a long-term relationship with, a fact that is never mentioned. Maddy quickly discovers her father is gay, seeing him and Theodore dancing at a gay bar. While her younger sister can't bear to think of her dad finding a woman to replace their mom, Maddy is desperate to connect him with a straight woman in the hopes that will somehow "cure" him of his gayness. Maddy's been making out with two-timing Sam (Corey Sevier), a classmate with a girlfriend. She tells him her secret and soon the entire school knows about her father. A note on her locker mocks her dad the "f-g." The girls are angry, hurt, and confused by the news that their dad is different and that he's kept a secret from them. They also don't understand that he fears the law will take his kids away if his orientation is revealed. Indeed, the grandparents discover the scandal and take the girls with them. What will happen to this family?
Is It Any Good?
Wild About Harry is a hugely disappointing missed opportunity to talk about an issue ripe for exploration. While it attempts to show the depth of commitment two gay men have to each other, it presents this notion in a format reminiscent of old TV family comedies, superficially and stereotypically, with no attempt made to answer the difficult questions this story raises. Why did a gay man marry a presumably straight woman in the first place? It's important to remind current generations that gay people struggled to hide their orientation in conventional marriages not so long ago. Was the woman he married also gay, trying to hide her orientation from an inhospitable world as well? Was Harry secretly involved with Theodore all through his marriage? If not, how do he and Theodore seem so well established as a couple from the opening moments of the movie? If yes, did Harry's wife know? Is Harry bisexual? If not, how did he manage to have two kids with his wife? These are certainly questions his daughters would have had. To not answer them seems like an irresponsible evasion that lets both his kids and the audience down.
Josh Peck delivers one moving speech about the importance of family in a movie that should have been full of them. Otherwise, the script, direction, and much of the acting provide us with a long list of bad choices. Why is American actor Donovan using an absurd British accent? Donovan's struggle with the accent is a distraction. Other characters' accents are all over the place as well as some mangled attempts at a New England accent. One woman seems to be mildly British. Why? The issue of hidden gayness is far more successfully explored in Brokeback Mountain, Beginners, and Moonlight. The many permutations of the human heart and human sexuality could've been delved into here but the filmmakers either could not, or chose not, to go to any of these interesting places.
Talk to Your Kids About ...
Families can talk about the questions raised by the discovery that a father of two is gay. What questions would you have for a man who seemed to have been happily married for years to a woman?
How does this movie set in the 1970s paint a picture of the way views about gay people have changed in the last 50 years?
Does the movie make it seem as if everyone's seemingly big problems are resolved a bit too easily in the end? Why or why not?
Does the movie suggest that if the mother hadn't died the father might never have come out? Why or why not?
Movie Details
- In theaters: December 17, 2009
- On DVD or streaming: December 17, 2021
- Cast: Tate Donovan, Danielle Savre, Skye McCole Bartusiak, Josh Peck, Corey Sevier, Stacey Dash, Adam Pascal
- Director: Gwen Wynne
- Studio: Avery Productions
- Genre: Drama
- Run time: 83 minutes
- MPAA rating: PG-13
- MPAA explanation: for thematic elements, sexual material and language
- Last updated: December 7, 2022
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