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Y Cómo Es Él? (Backseat Driver)
By Jennifer Green,
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Language, sex, violence in Mexican buddy comedy.

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What's the Story?
In Y CÓMO ES ÉL? (BACKSEAT DRIVER ), Tomás (Mauricio Ochmann) knows that his wife, Marcia (Zuria Vega), is cheating on him, so he flies to Puerto Vallarta to catch her in the act. He plans to physically maim the man she's with, Jero (Omar Chaparro). But Marcia thinks Tomás has flown to Monterrey for a job interview since he's been out of work. After Tomás can't bring himself to hurt Jero and instead winds up stabbing himself in the leg and passing out, he wakes up in the backseat of Jero's taxi. Jero turns out to be a pretty nice guy, and he offers to drive Tomás all the way back to Mexico City. He doesn't know who Tomás is or what his plans are. But during the long drive -- and a series of unexpected events along the way -- the two men end up bonding. Jero might just be able to help Tomás save his marriage.
Is It Any Good?
This funny albeit uneven Mexican comedy is a buddy road movie that has some not-so-subtle messages about toxic masculinity. Frantic with jealousy, Tomás imagines myriad ways to kill his wife's lover in Y Cómo Es Él?, each more violent than the last. But he's slowly worn down by Jero's positivity and his own basic goodness. The pair have some funny moments and one-liners, mostly involving down-and-out Tomás' many misfortunes (he doesn't exactly "radiate success and prosperity," Jero notes, and he can't grow a beard), which are contrasted with Jero's apparent surplus of wealth and charm. But things aren't always what they seem, which viewers realize as the curtain is pulled back gradually on Jero's financial problems, his "low-budget Romeo" act, and his cheap pickup lines that are specially crafted for each decade of a woman's life.
Here, two men critiqued as "macho" are forced to confront their own vulnerabilities, discovering in each other an unlikely companion for their journey. A scene in which the two drunkenly role-play a confrontation between Tomás and his wife is hilarious, capitalizing on the chemistry between the two popular actors. The film teases a possible attraction between them, a cliché that's problematic but at least done here with a wink and a nod. The subtext is that it's actually healthy for a man to cuddle his best friend, tell him he loves him, forgive a woman for cheating, and/or see a therapist. Of course, that progressive message is offset in other ways, like Jero's familiarity with a brothel or Tomás' Cheshire cat grin when he sneaks a peek at Jero's privates. The film has some technical shortcomings, including clumsy edits, a great soundtrack undermined by splices of heavy-handed original music, and an overly simplistic assassin subplot. But joining the stars on their road trip ultimately proves to be a surprisingly entertaining adventure.
Talk to Your Kids About ...
Families can talk about the idea of men being afraid to share their feelings or unable to forgive women who cheat, like in Y Cómo Es Él?. Does the movie's portrayal of men feel contemporary and authentic? Does the film rely on any gender stereotypes for humor?
This film is a remake of a South Korean movie. Why do you think filmmakers choose to do remakes? How might you change this story if you were to locate it in a different setting?
What genre would you call this movie? Does it mix genres?
Movie Details
- In theaters: April 22, 2022
- On DVD or streaming: April 22, 2022
- Cast: Mauricio Ochmann , Omar Chaparro , Zuria Vega
- Director: Ariel Winograd
- Inclusion Information: Latino actors, Female actors
- Studio: Pantelion Films
- Genre: Comedy
- Topics: Friendship
- Run time: 99 minutes
- MPAA rating: PG-13
- MPAA explanation: sexual material throughout, language and some violence
- Last updated: November 20, 2022
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