You & Me

Movie review by
Brian Costello, Common Sense Media
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Love story about couple with disabilities; sex, drinking.
  • NR
  • 2017
  • 90 minutes

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Positive Messages

This movie tells the story of a blind man and a deaf woman who fall in love. The story explores, often humorously, the ways in which their family, friends, and people they meet in social situations respond to their disabilities. While not always perfect, the two main characters are functioning and competent adults. 

Positive Role Models & Representations

Characters with disabilities presented as fully drawn people, competent and functioning adults who earn a living, have a social life, and pursue creative endeavors. They keep a sense of humor in their interactions with those who try to define them solely by their disabilities. 

Violence

One of the main characters lost his sight after getting into a car accident with teenagers who were drunk and texting. 

Sex

One of the lead characters shown having sex, filmed from the back. Characters talk openly of sex with their friends. While in a bar, three young women ask the blind lead character to guess what perfume each is wearing, and Tony guesses "semen" for one, and "Nicki Minaj a Trois" as another guess. While performing a song on stage, Tony sings of how "a part of me got hard" after meeting a woman for the first time. 

Language

"F--k" used on a regular basis. Also: "a--hole," s--t," "bulls--t," "goddamn," "piss," "bitch," "badass." Some sexual innuendo. 

Consumerism
Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

Binge drinking in a bar, some drunkenness. Characters drink shots of alcohol, martinis, cocktails, whiskey, wine. 

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that You & Me is a 2017 romcom/dramedy in which a deaf woman and a blind man meet and fall in love. Unlike many depictions of characters with disabilities, the two lead characters are fully-formed people who are competent and functioning adults, but are just as imperfect as anyone else. The couple often use humor when interacting with people who seem to only define them solely by their disability. Frequent use of profanity, including "f--k" used several times. One of the lead characters is shown having sex, filmed from the back, no nudity. Talk of sex between friends. Sexual innuendo. Characters drink, become drunk. Blind lead character talks of how he recently lost his vision due to a car accident after getting hit by a car occupied by teenagers who were drinking and texting. 

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What's the story?

In YOU & ME, Ella is a deaf writer who has recently moved to Los Angeles. One day while at a coffee shop, she's seated across from a blind man who gets up to leave and forgets his wallet on the table. Ella brings the wallet to the man, Tony, and the two seem to hit it off during their brief encounter. Soon, they run into each other again, this time at a health food store, and find they have a similar dry humor. But Tony, who recently lost his vision after a car accident, is depressed and emotionally scarred. The two remain friends as Ella takes part in literary readings and Tony begins playing musical shows with his best friend in a local bar. After Ella begins dating a handsome and well-known celebrity, she realizes that she's with the wrong guy. Could Tony be her future?

Is it any good?

While certainly rough around the edges, there's a charm and earnestness to this film that wins out in the end. There's also a dry humor throughout, and a self awareness of the conventions of the romcom that often delivers a fresh take on a stale genre, and not just because the man is blind and the woman is deaf. The dialogue and most of the acting goes far in avoiding the sappy and the sentimental. Furthermore, the two lead characters are fully formed, and are therefore so much more than their respective disabilities. 

While clearly a heartfelt effort to tell a story centered on two characters with disabilities that doesn't resort to the stereotypes of other depictions, the movie has its faults. The major hinges in the plot points come across as rusty and abrupt. The passage of time doesn't feel right -- as if there are montages when there should be scenes and vice-versa. The comedy aspects of the "dramedy/romcom" often fail to land, and the audience in the bar watching Tony's musical project with his best friend is entirely too charitable to the often groan-worthy lyrics. Overall, these qualities tend to negate so much of what is positive about You & Me

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about characters with disabilities in movies and television shows. How has the portrayal of these characters evolved over the years? 

  • How does You & Me show how these two characters can be defined in so many other ways besides their disabilities? 

  • How does this compare to other romcoms you've seen?

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