Parents' Guide to

90-Day Fiance

By Melissa Camacho, Common Sense Media Reviewer

age 13+

Cross-border marriage series has mature themes, drinking.

TV TLC Reality TV 2014
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What you will—and won't—find in this TV show.

Community Reviews

age 15+

Based on 10 parent reviews

age 13+

Less reality and more reality show, but it's never short on drama and you get to learn about other cultures along the way

This show shines when it focuses on the visa process, the culture of the individual who is not from the United States, and how the partner who moves assimilates into his or her new home. My favorite spinoff is 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way, because nearly all of the show is filmed in other countries. You learn quite a bit about their traditions, lifestyle and beliefs, and you see ordinary settings (street markets, parks) as often as you see recognizable tourist spots. However, I don't enjoy the show as much as I did at the outset. More of the conversations and encounters with other people seem to be producer set-ups. Sincere couples in love have been replaced in large part by people who want to grow their Instagram following. Family and friends appear because they have the same goal. You get the sense that some "friends" cared a lot more about the cast member after they found out they would be on 90 Day Fiance. Moreover, sex became a major focus. Cast members started to visit strip clubs and shop for adult novelties or lingerie. Sexual history was frequently described in detail. Viewers were forced to watch makeout sessions progress into barely clothed soft porn. The producers must have received criticism about their focus on sex, because the camera crews now leave the bedroom at a (mostly) appropriate time, but there is definitely room for improvement. I would not let a pre-teen watch the show.
age 16+

Its gotten raunchy

I used to love this show, but it has gotten gross and way inaccurate! Discussing sex, cumming, anal sex, butt plugs, erections, etc. My 11-yead-old was in the room and heard some of this.. it was embarrassing and disappointing. I didnt expect that kind of pornographic talk from a TLC program. I no longer watch!

Is It Any Good?

Our review:
Parents say (10 ):
Kids say (4 ):

90-Day Fiance highlights the complicated world of cross-border relationships, which are never as romantic as portrayed on TV and in films thanks to the range of personal, cultural, and bureaucratic challenges they pose in real life. But as cameras capture the various ups-and downs from each couple's 90-day journey, much of the show feels like a series of fish-out-of-water stories as the women attempt to acclimate to their their husband-to-be's culture and way of life.

The motives of the grooms-to-be are rarely questioned, but the concerns raised about each fiance's motives (which usually have something to do with obtaining American citizenship), are often steeped in unspoken stereotypes about women from various countries around the world. The result is a voyeuristic series that is sometimes very uncomfortable to watch.

TV Details

  • Premiere date: January 12, 2014
  • Network: TLC
  • Genre: Reality TV
  • TV rating: TV-PG
  • Last updated: January 21, 2024

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