A Friend of the Family
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A Friend of the Family
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A Lot or a Little?
The parents' guide to what's in this TV show.
What Parents Need to Know
Parents need to know that A Friend of the Family is a nine-episode docu-drama inspired by the real-life kidnapping saga that was previously depicted in Netflix's 2018 true crime doc Abducted in Plain Sight. The limited series is produced in part by the victim of the kidnapping, Jan Broberg, and her mother, Mary Ann. The subject matter concerns a pedophile who manipulates a family's weak spots to gain control of their young daughter, kidnapping her not once but twice. A child is drugged with sleeping pills, an adult man repeatedly and obsessively declares his love for and intention to marry and impregnate a 12-year-old girl. A husband and wife have sexual experiences with the same man (at separate times). Subjects discussed and portrayed include kidnapping, brainwashing, mental illness, sexual disorders, and blackmail. One character purchases a gun to protect his family, and another keeps a pistol under his mattress. This is a lurid, yet true story best left to older teens who can discuss and process the topics addressed with their parents or caregivers.
What's the Story?
A FRIEND OF THE FAMILY is the dramatized retelling of the very real and very strange case of Jan Broberg, a 12-year-old girl growing up in the sheltered Mormon community of Pocatello, Idaho in the 1970s who was repeatedly kidnapped and targeted by a disturbed adult man living just a few doors down. This neighbor, Bob Berchtold (nicknamed "B"), manipulates the girl's parents (Colin Hanks and Anna Paquin) into allowing him nearly unlimited access to their daughter, despite being informed by the man's physician and the FBI that he is "afflicted" with pedophilia and manic depression. His manipulations extend to Jan herself, as he engages in a multi-year brainwashing campaign to convince her that the two of them have been chosen by unseen extraterrestrial entities to save their dying planet, and the only way out is for the two of them to have a baby. The series follows the story from the first time the Broberg and Berchtold families hang out to the messy, dramatic aftermath, full of twists and turns most would scoff at as implausible if they didn't actually happen.
Is It Any Good?
In terms of helping to justify the jaw-dropping naïveté and recklessness shown by Jan Broberg's parents, the series utterly fails, but for pure entertainment value, it's engrossing as heck. A Friend of the Family is introduced by Jan herself, who advises viewers to keep in mind that these events took place "in a different time" -- which reads like a pre-emptive attempt to blunt a repeat of the strong criticisms leveled at her family when the documentary about this case was released on Netflix in 2018. And while the person who ultimately deserves the harshest judgment here is obviously Bob Berchtold (portrayed by Jake Lacy, who also blended surface charm with sinister creepiness in The White Lotus), extending this story to nine hours might give us a bit more background on the Brobergs' family dynamics, it does nothing to make their pliant acquiescence any less baffling.
Given the details of this case (Aliens! Kidnappings! Multiple affairs!) this could have been played purely for camp, but thankfully they don't go that route. The 1970s production design is all harvest golds and period hairdos, but doesn't ever look silly. The outstanding Hendrix Yancey plays young Jan with a guileless authenticity, which is well-matched by McKenna Grace playing the teenage Jan, who does a terrific job conveying the mixture of vulnerability and growing dread her character is experiencing. Another standout is Lio Tipton, who gives Berchtold's wife Gail real depth, convincingly depicting a troubled woman frozen between shame, despair, and codependent permissiveness. As far as dramatized retellings of true crime stories go, this is a solid, if not exactly needed, offering.
Talk to Your Kids About ...
Families can talk about the period-specific ways solving crimes was more difficult in the 1970s. What types of advancements are available to law enforcement and to families nowadays when it comes to keeping children safe?
At numerous times during Berchtold's relationship with the Broberg family, there are clear signs that this is not a safe person to have around Jan. Why do you think her parents ignored these early warnings? How do you think things could have been handled differently?
Talk about the kinds of true-life stories Hollywood chooses to make into fictionalized TV shows. What elements of the story make viewers want to tune in? Does it ever feel exploitative?
TV Details
- Premiere date: October 6, 2022
- Cast: Colin Hanks, Anna Paquin, Jake Lacy, McKenna Grace
- Network: Peacock
- Genre: Drama
- TV rating: TV-MA
- Last updated: December 1, 2022
Our Editors Recommend
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