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Are You the One?



Reality series with irresponsible dating, drinking messages.

What parents need to know

Positive messages

Mixed, confusing messages about what it takes to find the perfect relationship match. Features lots of fighting, competition, drama, plus irresponsible messages about drinking and sex.

Positive role models

The cast is from a variety of backgrounds, but all are young, good-looking, and interested in dating. Some seem to have stricter personal standards than others, but many discuss sleeping around or just being really bad at being in a mature relationship.


Disagreements are frequent, and bickering and threats are constant. One male contestant grabs a woman by the neck and punches a hole through a glass window. 


Lots of sexual references, including discussions about sexting and other provocative (and occasionally crude) sexual behavior. There's lots of bikini-clad women and bare-chested men and suggestive images of people's body parts (including partial buttocks and breasts). Most of the cast is expected to sleep together in a communal bed; couples are shown climbing into separate beds and being intimate. Words like "whore" are often used. 


Frequent cursing ("ass," "hell," "bitch"; "s--t," "f--k" bleeped).

Not applicable
Drinking, drugs, & smoking

Drinking (wine, beer, hard liquor) is frequent and enthusiastic. Drunken behavior is sometimes visible. 

Parents Need to Know

Parents need to know that Are You the One? features lots of over-the-top behavior, including drinking and drunken behavior, strong sexual references, scenes of people being intimate in bed, images of partiallydressed people, petty fights, and, on occasion, physically aggressive behavior. It also contains very confused, and sometimes irresponsible, messages about dating, relationships, and how to find your perfect mate.

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What's the story?

Hosted by Ryan Devlin, ARE YOU THE ONE? is a reality show featuring a cast of relationship-challenged twentysomethings hoping to find their perfect match and win a cash prize. After going through a rigorous matchmaking process, 20 perfectly matched men and women move into a luxury home in Kauai, Hawaii. The catch? No one knows who's been matched to whom. Each cast member must figure out who to pair up with and determine whether they're the right match. Throughout the experience, they play for perks such as getaway dates as well as chances to learn whether couples are correctly matched. If all 20 people find their perfect match within 10 tries, the entire cast gets to split $1 million.

Is it any good?


From following their hearts to shrewdly following their guts, Are You the One? contestants get to know one another physically and emotionally in a limited amount of time and within a manufactured context. But these connections can end quickly, since each person must be willing to switch partners and quickly attempt to find romance with someone else to find their designated match and win the money.

Teens who like this sort of voyeuristic entertainment most will likely be drawn to it, but like many MTV reality shows, it features lots of over-the-top behavior. But what's more troubling are the confusing messages it sends about dating and finding the perfect person to building a relationship with.

Families can talk about...

  • Families can talk about the reasons TV shows feature risky behavior, such as casual sex, excessive drinking, and other activities. What kind of impact does showing this behavior to kids have? Is it possible for TV shows and movies to be entertaining without showing these things? 

  • Is being on a reality TV show a good way to find a perfect match or start a relationship? Is the romance featured on these shows real, or is it played up for the cameras? 

TV details

Premiere date:January 21, 2014
Cast:Ryan Devlin
Genre:Reality TV
TV rating:TV-14
Available on:Streaming

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