For the Love of Ray J

Common Sense Media says

For the love of your kids, turn this sexed-up show off.





What parents need to know

Positive messages

Ray J claims to be looking for real love, but given the show's format, his intentions seem less than genuine. And the overall message? When 14 women are competing for the affection of one man, all bets -- and most of their clothes -- are off. There are a few women who refuse to play the stripper card, but they play the game in other ways.


There's some profanity-fueled verbal sparring. But women also participate in a challenge that has them fighting each other mano-a-mano in a boxing ring.


Most women rely on raw sex to attract Ray J -- from wearing skimpy clothing (like bikinis and lingerie) around the house to grinding seductively in his lap to sliding down into a split and gyrating their buttocks in his face. There's also a Web cam challenge in which the women "perform" for Ray J remotely in an attempt to impress and arouse him. On the show's official Web site, things only get worse. A bonus video titled "Meet the Ladies" has the feel of an amateur porn film, featuring three contestants who talk to an unseen cameraman about themselves in a sexually charged way. One refers to herself in the third person: "Coco Rain is just pure sexiness. Whatever you want in a woman is what Coco Rain is about. She's wild, and she's crazy. You know ... she'll just have sex in different places, other than the ordinary. Outside, you know, like in a park or somewhere I'm not supposed to be." Another is shown ironing a pink thong, and when the iron tips over, spilling water, she says, "Oh, look, my panties are getting all wet."


Words like "sex" and "sexy" are used a lot -- along with "nipple," "sloppy seconds," and "whore" -- and there's plenty of bleeped language, too (namely "s--t" and "f--k"). There are also blurred-out shots of people throwing the middle finger.


Ray J is a multi-platinum recording artist, and shaping his persona is what this show is all about. His songs are prominently featured, and the show's Web site includes plenty of cross-promotional links.

Drinking, drugs, & smoking

Alcohol of all sorts is readily available to everyone in the house, and one girl is shown drinking from a beer bong. Ray J also picks the ladies he'd like to keep by giving them a glass of champagne. One girl says, "Let's face it. I'm drunk right now."

Parents Need to Know

Parents need to know that older teens might want to check out this hip-hop flavored reality series that takes its cues from The Flavor of Love and Rock of Love with Bret Michaels and essentially functions as a commercial for Ray J and his music. But that doesn't mean they should. Iffy messages abound, and sexual content is heavy -- especially on the show's oft-touted Web site, where extra footage that was apparently too hot for television is posted for all to see. There's also plenty of drinking and strong language, although words like "s--t" and "f--k" are bleeped.

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What's the story?

In this VH1 reality dating series, hip-hop star Ray J (the younger brother of R&B singer Brandy Norwood) is looking for true love -- or something that looks a whole lot like it -- with a little help from his platonic lady friend, Little B. After sorting through stacks of video applications, Ray J has whittled down a group of prospective girlfriends to 14, and now they're all living in a mansion and competing for his attention via a series of elimination-style challenges. Each week, new competitors are sent packing, and only one woman can win his heart.

Is it any good?


OK, so maybe you shouldn't expect too much from a young recording star who shot to fame thanks in part to an explicit sex tape he filmed with Kim Kardashian. But you should expect to be stunned by the sexually charged antics of this unoriginal reality series, which reinforces negative stereotypes about men and women.

Following an all-too-familiar formula, FOR THE LOVE OF RAY J isn't exactly offering anything new when it comes to entertainment -- just a brand-new crop of women who are willing to exploit themselves on camera for their own reasons. Some claim they're there for love, but in an age of reality-driven "romance," it's an increasingly bitter pill to swallow. VH1, make it stop.

Families can talk about...

  • Families can talk about the women competing for Ray J's affections. Why do you think they might have been selected for the show? How many of them seem like they're in it for their 15 minutes of fame, and how many seem like they're looking for real love? And what about Ray J? Do you think his intentions are true? Why might he have agreed to star in a show like this?

TV details

Cast:Ray J
Genre:Reality TV
TV rating:TV-14

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Adult Written byThe JP Show May 25, 2009


This show is horrible. That is the word. Time for content. V(IFFY)Intense arguements.S(OFF)Very explect. L(IFFY)Moderate Profanty.
Adult Written byTeykia April 11, 2009

sooooooo watttttttttttttttttt

it is a show. Ray j can look for love however he wants to and that is his show, our tvs.we can watch whatever we want to because yall dont pay the bills.
Teen, 16 years old Written bystyle_queen February 28, 2009

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