Parents' Guide to For the Love of Ray J

TV VH1 Reality TV 2009
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Common Sense Media Review

Kari Croop By Kari Croop , based on child development research. How do we rate?

age 16+

For the love of your kids, turn this sexed-up show off.

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Why Age 16+?

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Parent and Kid Reviews

age 9+

Based on 2 parent reviews

age 2+

Based on 1 kid review

What's the Story?

In this VH1 reality dating series, hip-hop star Ray J (the younger brother of R&B singer Brandy Norwood) is looking for true love -- or something that looks a whole lot like it -- with a little help from his platonic lady friend, Little B. After sorting through stacks of video applications, Ray J has whittled down a group of prospective girlfriends to 14, and now they're all living in a mansion and competing for his attention via a series of elimination-style challenges. Each week, new competitors are sent packing, and only one woman can win his heart.

Is It Any Good?

Our review:
Parents say ( 2 ):
Kids say ( 1 ):

OK, so maybe you shouldn't expect too much from a young recording star who shot to fame thanks in part to an explicit sex tape he filmed with Kim Kardashian. But you should expect to be stunned by the sexually charged antics of this unoriginal reality series, which reinforces negative stereotypes about men and women.

Following an all-too-familiar formula, FOR THE LOVE OF RAY J isn't exactly offering anything new when it comes to entertainment -- just a brand-new crop of women who are willing to exploit themselves on camera for their own reasons. Some claim they're there for love, but in an age of reality-driven "romance," it's an increasingly bitter pill to swallow. VH1, make it stop.

Talk to Your Kids About ...

  • Families can talk about the women competing for Ray J's affections. Why do you think they might have been selected for the show? How many of them seem like they're in it for their 15 minutes of fame, and how many seem like they're looking for real love? And what about Ray J? Do you think his intentions are true? Why might he have agreed to star in a show like this?

TV Details

  • Premiere date : February 2, 2009
  • Cast : Ray J
  • Network : VH1
  • Genre : Reality TV
  • TV rating : TV-14
  • Last updated : September 20, 2019

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