Living with Yourself

TV review by
Joyce Slaton, Common Sense Media
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Great, quirky clone series has some language, sexy stuff.

Parents say

age 13+
Based on 3 reviews

Kids say

age 15+
Based on 4 reviews

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Positive Messages

Sharp points are made about regret, obligations, gratitude, and other concepts are made in this smart show which clearly sympathizes more with those who have to deal with Miles than Miles himself. "Why can't I be happy for once?" grouses Miles to his sister, who responds sagely "Because you didn't earn it."

Positive Role Models & Representations

Miles is an ordinary man caught in the grip of extraordinary circumstances, which exposes what a lazy jerk he's been, and prompts him to do better. Kate is somewhat underwritten -- we learn more about what Miles thinks of her than we see her inner life. There are also some interesting subversions of stereotypes, like when Old Miles criticizes New Miles for crying in a restaurant, and New Miles implies Old Miles isn't courageous enough to show his emotions openly. In another scene, two men at first presented as "mystical Asian" stereotypes explain that they consciously choose this front: "It's easier when the customers don't see us as people." 


Violence is mostly implied, like when a man tells a terrifying story about getting a boy killed at a concentration camp. In another scene, we learn how bodies are generally disposed of at the "spa" where Miles gets cloned: "Ideally we grind, then dissolve old body in acid." A character wakes up in a shallow grave, wrapped in plastic. Two men battle each other with weapons (rocks, an axe), but there's no blood or visible injury. 


Characters have consensual sex with thrusting and moaning but no nudity; a woman's breast is visible in a non-sexual context (she's showering). A running joke concerns a character watching pornography (we hear some moaning and see a "You must be 18 to view" screen, but no actual sex). Characters imply that a spa is actually a brothel, speculating about getting a "hand job" and a "tug job." Two characters are trying to have a baby together and talk about going to a fertility clinic for a sperm analysis. 


Language and cursing includes "f--k," "f--king," "s--t," "bulls--t," "a--hole," "motherf--ker."

Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

Characters drink at parties and gatherings. The show also implies that Miles sometimes overindulges in alcohol by showing him wasting time at home with bottles of beer lining a table; he burps and appears sloppy. 

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that Living With Yourself is a series about a man (Paul Rudd) who tries to change for the better and instead winds up battling with a duplicate of himself for control of his life. Mature content includes sexual jokes about a spa actually being a brothel that gives "hand jobs," and a running joke about a man watching pornography. In another scene, a married couple has passionate sex with noises and movements; her breast is briefly visible as she takes a shower. Violence is mostly implied, but there are some creepy scenes with a medical bent, and one in which a character wakes up in a shallow grave, having been left for dead. A man tells a frightening story about getting a young inmate killed in a concentration camp; we also hear how bodies are disposed of in an illegal cloning operation. Characters drink at gatherings, and one character drinks alone, lining up beer bottles on a table and burping sloppily. Language includes "f--k," "s--t," "a--hole," "motherf--ker." This series makes interesting points about what happens when people stop trying to do the right thing, and how it feels to be sharply reminded of that. It also subverts gender and racial stereotypes in an interesting way (though the main character is a white guy). 

User Reviews

  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Parent of a 9 and 12-year-old Written byavengerboi June 1, 2020
Adult Written byJohn K. November 21, 2019

This show sucks :(

This show sucks. A Quiet Place is better.
Teen, 14 years old Written byWillowIvy July 21, 2021

Great programme with a big message.

I thoroughly enjoyed watching this programme, it was so well casted with Aisling Bea really standing out as such a great character. The programme came with such... Continue reading
Teen, 13 years old Written byNeta Naveh July 26, 2020

It's really good TV series.

I liked it. Great TV series with great actors. There is things like sex that are not for children.

What's the story?

What would your life be like if you were faced with LIVING WITH YOURSELF? That's the dilemma Miles (Paul Rudd) finds himself in, when after a visit to a mysterious "spa," he wakes up buried in a shallow grave. The spa attendants who promised to rebuild his DNA better than ever instead cloned him, and implanted all his memories into the new, better Miles. But something went wrong, and the old Miles woke up. Now there are two guys trying to fit into just one life, and Old Miles finds that he must battle to hold on to his job, his wife Kate (Aisling Bea), and even his identity. 

Is it any good?

With a nifty sci-fi premise, possibly the world's most lovable actor in the lead spot, and a plot that ticks along as briskly as a pop song, this winner of a series is an addictive kick. Old Miles, recognizable by his glasses -- new and improved Miles doesn't need 'em -- and a truly terrible wig, voices the truly existential dilemma out the heart of this series: "He's better than me, like, in everything." While Old Miles is distracted and grumpy, New Miles asks how Kate's day was, and cares about the answer. When New Miles enters a room, a perpetual beaming smile on his face, he tidies up dishes and folds the blankets that Old Miles left crumpled on the sofa. New Miles has enthusiasm at work -- and in the bedroom. It's easy to see why Kate and everyone else in Miles' life would like the changes in him, and just as obvious why Old Miles quickly grows to resent him. 

Face it: If you had to hang out with the very best version of yourself, how much would you like it? As the Miles' relationship morphs from confusing to cooperative to dangerously hostile in Living With Yourself, Old Miles is reminded again and again how much his half-assed attitude has upended his life. But if you think a simple lesson about gratitude and appreciating what really matters is all this subversive show has on its mind, keep watching. You'll find it's very livable, indeed. 

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about being pulled in different directions. How does Miles manage his different responsibilities? Do you ever feel split in too many directions? How do you manage multitasking? What steps can you take to reduce the pressures on your time?

  • Talk about male and female stereotypes. How do Miles and Kate fit into stereotypes of male and female behavior in our society? Do we see fewer gender stereotypes in contemporary movies? What role do movies and television play in reinforcing or challenging stereotypes?

  • The idea of having a duplicate of yourself that will take on the more onerous aspects of your life or help you become more successful is a fairly common one in science fiction and fantasy. What other takes have you seen on this setup? How is Living With Yourself similar or different from these other depictions? 

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