My Brilliant Friend

TV review by
Joyce Slaton, Common Sense Media
My Brilliant Friend TV Poster Image
Slow-burning series as enchanting as novels it's based on.

Parents say

age 12+
Based on 1 review

Kids say

No reviews yetAdd your rating

Did this review miss something on diversity?

Research shows a connection between kids' healthy self-esteem and positive, diverse representations in books, TV shows, and movies. Want to help us help them? Suggest a diversity update

We think this TV show stands out for:

A lot or a little?

The parents' guide to what's in this TV show.

Positive Messages

Strong themes revolve around the subtleties of friendships between women, including competitiveness between them (romantic, social, intellectual) and the way that a particular time and place can shape their opportunities. Other themes concern class conflict, the changing conditions for women in the 1970s and 1980s, and the damage done when wealth and status limits an individual's opportunities. 

Positive Role Models & Representations

Lila and Elena are loyal friends from two different sets of circumstances -- Lila's is more constrained by poverty and her parents' beliefs about the role of young women in a family, Elena has more intellectual and social freedom; both are affected by their childhood experiences. Period-correct classism and sexism are common: men in a neighborhood consider a man strange because he writes poetry and helps wife push their baby carriage; boys mock the son of a grocer for being "beaten by a girl" and tell him to "go sell fruit!" 


Violence is realistic and generally mild, but can be upsetting: a teacher marches a boy forcefully up a school hall by his ear saying "Look at the dunce!" and calling him a donkey in front of the other kids. A man is found dead and Elena goes to his wake and funeral. We see his dead body with his face obscured and a grieving widow. A man who insulted another man is dragged bodily from a church and we hear wife screaming then see him thrown against a wall. Afterwards he has a bloody face and head. Two women have a slap fight and one falls downstairs; an older boy slaps Lila for defeating his brother in an academic competition. 


Expect talk of romance and crushes, dating, kissing. As Lila and Elena age, they fall in love and have sex, including a subplot where Elena first has sex with a much older man (and the father of a schoolmate). 


Language is in Italian, with subtitles: "s--t," "f--king," "ass," "slut," "bitch," "son of a bitch," "a--hole."

Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

Characters smoke cigarettes and adults drink liquor in some scenes. 

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that My Brilliant Friend is an adaptation of a book series known as the "Neapolitan Novels" that follows a pair of young girls growing up in Italy. The show is Italian-language, with subtitles (but no English track) available; expect (translated) cursing such as "s--t," "f--king," "ass," "slut," "bitch," "son of a bitch," "a--hole." Violence is realistic and often contains elements of sexual competitiveness and/or class conflict: two women fight over the affections of a man until one falls down a set of stairs, a man "ruined" by taking money from a loan shark is badly beaten after insulting that man, a boy slaps a girl for defeating his brother at an academic competition. Adults hit and slap children, including a teacher who drags a student by his ear and calls him a "dunce" and "donkey" in front of other students. Sexual content is light in early episodes, but teen and adult characters fall in love and have sex, including an incident in which a young woman first has sex with the father of a schoolmate. Characters smoke cigarettes and adults drink liquor in some scenes. Expect strong themes about friendship, class, sexism, and the way that societal and parental expectations can limit someone's potential. 

User Reviews

  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Parent of a 14-year-old Written byIndbn35 December 2, 2018

A real good show

This show isn’t inappropriate at all, only a few cuss word and some violence but nothing that kids these days see in Superhero movies like Marvel. It a really g... Continue reading

There aren't any reviews yet. Be the first to review this title.

What's the story?

Based on the beloved book series the Neapolitan Novels by Elena Ferrante, MY BRILLIANT FRIEND tells the story of Elena (played by Elisa Del Genio as a child and Margherita Mazzucco as a teen) and Lila (played by Ludovica Nasti and then Gaia Girace), two girls growing up in Naples. The books follow Elena and Lila from childhood through old age as they fashion lives for themselves against the backdrop of a rapidly transforming small town -- and the changing roles and expectations of women in their times. 

Is it any good?

Beautiful, subtle, and borrowing both its structure and pace from the deeply loved book series, this slow burn of a drama will please already-converted Ferrante fans and newbies alike. Antsy viewers who like everything spelled out for them may complain that things don't move along quickly enough -- a scene in the series' pilot in which Lila and a group of bully boys throw rocks at each other is a perfect example. The boys throw a rock, pause, Lila throws it back. The boys throw a rock, pause, Lila throws it back. And repeat, as the camera holds the two groups with its unblinking stare. Why are we watching these kids throw rocks back and forth for minutes at a time? Because the payoff, in which Elena transforms from an interested watcher of Lila to a faithful friend willing to protect her, is simply beautiful -- and made even more so by the true-to-life pacing. 

It is a bit hard to distinguish who's who in the large cast, particularly since the show isn't really about peripheral characters but instead about Lila and Elena's impression of and reactions to them. And those who dislike reading subtitles will be disappointed to learn that there's no dubbed English track. But these small issues fade away as viewers fall under the spell of a naturalistic and epic drama set in a gorgeous place in another time, spooling out the twists and turns of the lives of two girls who feel real and immediate. My Brilliant Friend feels less like a TV show and more like an actual place, a place a certain type of viewer will want to visit, and linger. 

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about why books are frequently adapted for the movies or TV. Which version do you usually prefer? Does it enhance your enjoyment to have read the book first? Have you read the book series My Brilliant Friend is based on? Did it make you like the show more or less? 

  • Movies and TV shows set in other countries but made for an American audience are frequently in English. Why? Is it hard to understand subtitled shows or movies? Do you prefer subtitles or dubbed English? Is it more realistic to use the language of the place the show is set? 

  • How do Lila and Elena demonstrate courage and teamwork? Why are these important character strengths?

TV details

Our editors recommend

For kids who love drama

Character Strengths

Find more TV shows that help kids build character.

Common Sense Media's unbiased ratings are created by expert reviewers and aren't influenced by the product's creators or by any of our funders, affiliates, or partners.

See how we rate

Streaming options powered by JustWatch

About these links

Common Sense Media, a nonprofit organization, earns a small affiliate fee from Amazon or iTunes when you use our links to make a purchase. Thank you for your support.

Read more

Our ratings are based on child development best practices. We display the minimum age for which content is developmentally appropriate. The star rating reflects overall quality.

Learn how we rate