The Vow
By Joyce Slaton,
Common Sense Media Reviewer
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Docu of scandalized cultish self-help group is eye-opening.
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What's the Story?
THE VOW investigates the history of Nxivm, a mysterious group based in Albany, New York, that sold itself as a sort of multilevel marketing company designed to encourage clients to optimize their personal success, but whose practices have resulted in federal charges of sex trafficking, racketeering, and more. Weaving together interviews with ex-adherents along with educational materials from Nxivm, news reports, and personal footage of Nxivm events, The Vow uncovers the truth about Nxivm and the people involved in it.
Is It Any Good?
Digging into what newspaper headlines have called a "sex cult" seems like a slam dunk for a series, but the Nxivm story might have been better told in a shorter running time. Though this docuseries does score when it investigates the impact that Nxivm had on the lives of those involved, it sags when we spend time actually listening to Nxivm blather, and we do quite a bit of that, particularly in the first episode. As we watch educational videos prepared by Nxivm bigwigs Keith Raniere and Nancy Salzman, a sort of spell creeps over the viewer, but it's more akin to boredom than fascination. The jury-rigged pseudoscientific terminology and acronyms alone are numbing: rational inquiry, disintegrations, limiting beliefs ... do we have to spend time listening to this nonsense before getting to the good stuff?
And there is indeed good stuff to be had here, and the tension does ratchet up as the series proceeds. As followers of the Nxivm story already know, the group started with educational workshops and potential-building meetings, and ended up with its most fervent followers handing over all their money and undergoing a horrific and physically scarring ritual. It's interesting to listen to people who came to the group for help improving their lives and instead ended up ruining them, and The Vow certainly has a lot of material to work with: It feels like Nxivm filmed all their parties and meetings, and ex-adherents are articulate and eager to talk about their experiences. But you may want to hit that fast-forward button every time Nxivm leaders appear on the screen.
Talk to Your Kids About ...
Families can talk about how the news presents information. The Vow features clips of TV news reports covering the events at the time. Does the news coverage seem biased or does it seem objective?
What is a cult? Why do you think people would join a group like Nxivm? What's the difference between a cult and a religion? A cult and a social group or community? What are some cults that have made an impact on world history?
Nxivm has a lot of jargon connected with it. How is this jargon similar to words used in other businesses and self-help groups you know? Is this similarity intentional? How do the acronyms and jargon create a feeling of "insiderness" and make those new to Nxivm feel like outsiders?
TV Details
- Premiere date: August 24, 2020
- Cast: Anthony Ames , Sarah Edmondson , Catherine Oxenberg
- Network: HBO
- Genre: Reality TV
- TV rating: TV-MA
- Last updated: September 30, 2023
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