Too Hot to Handle

TV review by
Melissa Camacho, Common Sense Media
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"No sex" reality show has drinking, cursing, mixed messages.

Parents say

age 12+
Based on 6 reviews

Kids say

age 13+
Based on 7 reviews

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The parents' guide to what's in this TV show.

Positive Messages

It attempts to highlight what's important in a relationship, but sends confusing messages. It also fails to send clear messages about the role of sex in healthy adult relationships. 

Positive Role Models & Representations

The cast is self-involved and hedonistic, but some appear to learn a few things during the process. 


Some mild arguments arise, but nothing violent. 


Sex is a central theme in the show. The cast discusses it (often crudely) and engages in different sexual behaviors. Nudity is blurred. 


Curses like "s--t" and "f--k" are audible. 

Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

There’s lots of drinking, ranging from champagne and cocktails to hard liquor. 

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that Too Hot To Handle is a reality dating competition that challenges contestants to refrain from sexual activity in exchange for a cash prize. There’s lots of strong sexual innuendo, ranging from explicit discussions about sexual activities, to couples kissing and engaging in sexual acts. The cast wears skimpy, skin-revealing bikinis, and are often shown in various stages of undress (but no visible nudity). There's lots of cursing, including "s--t" and "f--k", and heavy drinking. 

User Reviews

  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Adult Written byJay_G April 27, 2020

Totally appropriate (NOT!)

It’s great! If you like shows about dumb love. Which I do! and when I said dumb I meant dope! As in the drug which causes depression. But the show causes pure h... Continue reading
Adult Written byarthur041477 July 13, 2020


We think there are liquors couples kissing bad words like st and fk or f word and s word and like skin revealing bikinis
Teen, 14 years old Written byElzzz April 24, 2020
I think that it is 14+ it is very fun and entertaining to watch.
Teen, 14 years old Written byCommonsenseuser144 September 11, 2020

It was terrible DON'T WASTE TIME

So I asked my mom if I could watch it and she said yes but to stop if it got bad. My problem with it was it was these people couldn't go a hour without kis... Continue reading

What's the story?

Narrated by Desiree Burch, TOO HOT TO HANDLE is a reality dating show that challenges contestants to make romantic connections without having sex. Ten good looking twenty-somethings with self-proclaimed strong sex drives come together in a luxurious tropical villa in Mexico for a four week retreat in hopes of finding love. Once they settle in, they are informed by a virtual assistant named "Lana" that they must refrain from any sort of sexual activity if they want to win the $100K prize. Every time contestants breaks the rules, the prize money decreases based on the kind of sexual act committed. Meanwhile, contestants are also watched to see if they are making deeper connections with each other without sexual contact. Those who are not are eliminated. At the end of the month, the remaining contestants divide what is left of the prize money between them. 

Is it any good?

Much like Netflix’s Love Is Blind, this voyeuristic reality competition is designed to encourage participants to actively focus on things other than sex when trying to connect with another person. But watching cast members engage in some sort of sexual activity is at the forefront of the show gives it a Love Island-like feel as cameras record the model-type contestants talking, drinking, and (inevitably) enjoying sexual encounters. The constant talking about who is pairing up, and who is having sex (and costing them money) makes it equally tedious. As a result, Too Hot To Handle is only nominally entertaining, and misses its mark when it comes to offering constructive messages about building healthy intimate adult relationships. 

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about how feasible it is to genuinely fall in love with someone on a reality show. What are the challenges to keeping that relationship after the cameras stop rolling? Does anyone in the Too Hot To Handle cast appear to understand that challenge

  • What messages does this series send about the connection between healthy intimate relationships and sexual activity? Are these messages clear? Who are they intended for


TV details

  • Premiere date: April 17, 2020
  • Cast: Desiree Burch
  • Network: Netflix
  • Genre: Reality TV
  • TV rating: TV-MA
  • Available on: Streaming
  • Last updated: April 23, 2020

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