Parents' Guide to

We Are Who We Are

By Joyce Slaton, Common Sense Media Reviewer

age 15+

Teen drinking and sex in lovely, lyrical cinematic drama.

TV HBO Drama 2020
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A Lot or a Little?

What you will—and won't—find in this TV show.

Community Reviews

age 17+

Based on 2 parent reviews

age 17+

Masterpiece for mature teenagers and older

Parents should know that this incredible, mature coming-of-age story about sexuality and identity contains a good deal of explicit nudity, sex, and drug use. It’s an essential masterpiece, however, for those who can handle it.
age 16+

quite a lot of nudity

This show in my opinion is for older teens,the only BIG thing you have to worry about in this show as a parent is the nudity.

Is It Any Good?

Our review:
Parents say (2 ):
Kids say (8 ):

Intimate, beautiful, and enchating, this drama takes its time getting places, but introduces us to characters so unique and compelling that we're happy to get to know them slowly. Fraser is an eyefull from the first moment we see him: bleached blonde hair corkscrewing eccentrically out from his head in all directions, yellow and black nails, animal-print fur culottes; his suitcase has gotten lost on the way to the tiny Italian town where his mom is to take command, and he's cranky. "I'm thirsty," he complains to mom Sarah, pushing away the bottle of water his stepmom Maggie offers. Sarah eventually hands him a bottle of what looks like airplane vodka.

Their relationship only gets more unusual from there, but that's not exactly what this character-driven show is about, just like it's not exactly about living as a weirdo on a military base where conformity rules, or about how gender and sexuality don't necessarily predict who you'll fall in love with, or how friends who get you can ease the sting of a world that often doesn't; it's actually about all these things, and every other part of these fiercely real characters' lives. We spend large swathes of time just watching the crowd of military-brat friends Fraser takes up with as they play around at the beach, party at each other's houses, wander around the military grocery store and through throngs of soldiers jogging in formation. And it's beautiful, getting to know these characters and understand what they're looking for. Take all the time you need, We Are Who We Are -- you're worth waiting for.

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