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Anatomy of a Boyfriend

Graphic first love -- & sex -- story better for older teens.

What parents need to know

Educational value

Provides an opportunity for parents to share their own opinions and expectations about teen dating and sex. See our Families Can Talk about section for some discussion ideas.

Positive messages

This is a book about first love and sexual experiences.

Positive role models

The main character is smart, articulate, and driven, but her obsession with her boyfriend can border on the extreme. She will do anything to be with her boyfriend, including lying to
her parents, but she also turns to them for advice, comfort, and support.
Readers will appreciate her honest narration and that teens discuss and practice safe sex.

Not applicable

Graphic descriptions of kissing, touching, fondling, oral sex, and intercourse. Discussion of nudity, using birth control, sneaking away to have sex. Teen friend thinks she may be pregnant. Police officer catches boy and girl fooling around in parked car.


Use of words "assholes," "s--t," "hell," and "damn."

Not applicable
Drinking, drugs, & smoking

Teenagers drink at parties. Adults drink in front of teens.

Parents Need to Know

Parents need to know that this book is filled with graphic descriptions of first intimate experiences and has been compared to Judy Blume's Forever. As a senior in high school, the main female character is obsessed with her first real boyfriend and describes in vivid detail their romantic encounters, from kissing and touching to oral sex and losing her virginity. She is also an overachieving student, has applied to colleges with pre-med ambitions, and has strong, healthy relationships with her parents and best girlfriend. In the context of social gatherings, there is some underage drinking and profanity in dialogue for effect. The protagonist is a likeable character, but parents need to be comfortable with the frank sex-related content, which could double as a how-to manual.

What's the story?

Dominique, a high-achieving student at an all-girl high school, meets Wes, a track star at the local public high school. Her best friend Amy encourages Dom to pursue him. They slowly develop a relationship, the first physical one for both. Eventually, hot and heavy, they find secret ways to be alone and explore first sexual encounters. Promising always to be together, they attend different colleges in different states and attempt to maintain their close relationship through email, phone calls, and visits back home. But is it possible?

Is it any good?


First love and first times are very dramatic, no doubt, but they're not always on display so graphically, with how-to manual-style details. Written in the first person, the book lets readers get up close and personal with Dominique's thoughts, feelings, apprehensions, and pleasures. Like many teens, she communicates as much through email, text messaging, and cell phones as she does in person. And she's much more candid via email, in fact, especially when she's making a big relationship decision. For readers at this junction between high school and college romance, this book may give them something to ponder, but younger readers may be overwhelmed by the protagonist's obsession with her boyfriend and the explicit details of their relationship.

Families can talk about...

  • Families can talk about the sexual content of this book. Does it seem overly graphic -- or just realistic? When authors are writing books targeting teens, is any subject matter off limits?

  • Do you think books like this one can shape teen sexual behavior? Who or what do you think has the most influence over your decisions? Does media, including books, play a role?

Book details

Author:Daria Snadowsky
Genre:Coming of Age
Book type:Fiction
Publisher:Delacorte Press
Publication date:February 19, 2007
Number of pages:272
Publisher's recommended age(s):14

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Teen, 17 years old Written bysyanigh June 24, 2009

what is with the author

i read this book not all i had to stop i think this book is not right for the ages 15 and under and the book should not be sold in public schools and it has no positive meassage to it.. and has very bad content to it that i think should be bad for all ages to read.. but i think that the author has a very bright mind and a good heart for storys but the author should right a book that is age approprite for all ages..
What other families should know
Too much sex
Too much swearing
Too much consumerism
Too much drinking/drugs/smoking
Adult Written byamberkapiolani August 28, 2011

best book I've ever read :)

this book is GREAT, i read it when i was 13 and LOVED it. It is informational as well as witty. Dominique is a character that so many teenage girls can relate to. The relationship between Wes and Dominique is one that really can be described as first love; even though it ends in heartache, it shows how teenagers can often mistake love and how to get over it. I'm a big reader and i love reading books like these; I've read Judy Blume's Forever and was not as taken by it as i was with this one. I've read this book front to back about ten times in the last five years and i still laugh and cry at the appropriate parts. Teenage girls should read this book, there are so many important life lessons that you can't get anywhere else. It should be turned into a movie :)))))))))
What other families should know
Educational value
Great messages
Great role models
Too much sex
Adult Written bytaralibrarian April 9, 2008

good deterrent to premarital sex

I read a review copy of this book several months ago and was very impressed with the quality of the writing. It gives, in almost cringe-worthy detail, a very realistic insight into first love. If anything, this book will deter young adults from engaging in sexual activity too early because it shows all of the devastating emotional, and some physical, consequences of premarital sex. Most books that show young adults having sex sensationalize the subject, and this does just the opposite. Moreover, it's a fast-paced, entertaining story that all teen girls would enjoy. I highly recommend this fabulous book for high schoolers.