Parents' Guide to How to be Popular

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Kate Pavao By Kate Pavao , based on child development research. How do we rate?

age 12+

Predictable book with a positive point; tweens OK.

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Why Age 12+?

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Parent and Kid Reviews

age 11+

Based on 3 parent reviews

age 12+

Based on 13 kid reviews

Kids say the book delivers an uplifting message that encourages young readers, especially girls, to prioritize being true to themselves over seeking popularity, which can be fleeting. While it offers valuable insights for teens, some reviewers noted occasional maturity issues, including references to romance and language that may not appeal to all audiences.

  • self-acceptance
  • popularity misconceptions
  • targeted age group
  • maturity concerns
  • positive messages
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What's the Story?

With the help of an outdated book about popularity, Steph Landry is determined to trade in her social leper status for life on the A-list.

\ But as she starts to climb the social ladder, she realizes that popularity isn't everything she dreamed it to be.

Is It Any Good?

Our review:
Parents say ( 3 ):
Kids say ( 13 ):

Readers will know from the beginning what unpopular Steph will learn as she struggles to hang out with the A-crowd. They'll even know who she'll eventually hook up with (Hint: It's not the school's hot quarterback). They may also wonder how they're supposed to feel about the old book that inspires Steph's popularity plan. Some of the guide's advice is obviously outdated -- the book suggests white kid gloves, for example. But Steph's book also encourages girls to get involved in school activities, smile, and to remember other people's names -- all of which is actually pretty good advice, and does help Steph become popular.

But, even with these holes, readers will find this an entertainting read, and be thrilled when Steph finally figures out what really matters. They may even want to re-read the section where Steph tells Lauren -- the school's queen bee -- to buzz off, because "there are a lot more Steph Landry's in the world -- people who've made fools of themselves in public, people who don't have every hair perfectly in place all the time, people who don't have rich parents who'll buy them a new car every year -- than there are stuck-up beauty queens like you."

Talk to Your Kids About ...

  • Families can talk about other books and movies that deal with the concept of popularity. What other titles can you think of? How accurate are their depictions of what it's like to be "popular" -- and not? Are most popular kids really rich, gossipy, and mean? And if so, why would anyone want to be part of an A-group?

Book Details

  • Author : Meg Cabot
  • Genre : Coming of Age
  • Book type : Fiction
  • Publisher : HarperTempest
  • Publication date : August 29, 2006
  • Publisher's recommended age(s) : 12 - 17
  • Number of pages : 304
  • Last updated : October 9, 2025

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