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The Kind of Friends We Used to Be

By Terreece Clarke, Common Sense Media Reviewer

age 10+

Accurate and heartwarming story about tween friendship.

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Dowell does a great job of capturing the ups and downs of tween friendships, as well as the way friendships can naturally change as kids discover their own interests and passions. Marilyn and Kate are wonderful, warm characters that girls can really identify with, and the middle school situations they find themselves in are common and very well written, with a nice touch of humor.

Kate's fascination with guitars and huge black boots are completely opposite from Marilyn's love of cheerleading and fashion, and there doesn't seem to be much common ground. The novel does an effective job of showing how much work friendships can be, but also shows how important friendships are, and that the effort is worthwhile.

Book Details

  • Author: Frances O'Roark Dowell
  • Genre: Friendship
  • Book type: Fiction
  • Publication date: January 6, 2009
  • Publisher's recommended age(s): 9 - 12
  • Number of pages: 240
  • Last updated: July 12, 2017

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