The Virginity Club

Common Sense Media says

Lots of teen sex talk, but it never gets raunchy.





What parents need to know

Positive messages

While there's a lot of talk about sex, most of the emphasis is on not having sex, saving oneself for marriage, knowing when the right time is, and how to deal with repercussions of one's actions.

Not applicable

Because of the subject -- virginity -- sex is talked about often. Students joke that a teacher may be a closet porn freak, a jock talks about how he can go "all night" while making "sexual" movements, a boy shows a girl's bra to friends at school and teens call a girl a variety of names because they think she's promiscious. A girl and her boyfriend have sex for the first time and she describes a "burning sensation" between her thighs. A girl discusses how she's a sex goddess. There are several make-out scenes, including shirtless and braless descriptions.


Name calling, including "slut," "sexaholic," and "jerk."


Chanel, Gwyneth Paltrow reference, Hanes Her Way

Drinking, drugs, & smoking

Teens drink alcohol at a party. A girl talks about sipping cocktails with a celebrity.

Parents Need to Know

Parents need to know that the characters in this book talk about sex -- a lot. The main characters navigate through high school's sexually charged atmosphere, making and questioning their choices about sexual intercourse. There are some scenes of heavy petting and a girl describes losing her virginity. And despite the book's focus, it's not raunchy.

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Kids say

What's the story?

Debbie, Mandy, Kai and Eva all find themselves in an odd situation. The prestigious Treemont scholarship is the answer to each girl's prayers for college. There's one sticking point: the person who wins the scholarship must be pure of mind and body. Yikes! Now virginity is on everyone's mind. Who is and who isn't a virgin?

Is it any good?


This is a fun little book following the choices and consequences of sexuality among high school girls. Author Kate Brian steers away from the raunchy while keeping the fun and realistic high school banter in place. Brian does a great job examining four different girls in four different situations as they all grapple with what it means to be "pure." Perhaps most realistic of all is the situation Debbie Patel finds herself in. Her flirty behavior has people believing she's done more than she has and it doesn't bother her until dreamboat Rylie and her teachers assume the worst.

Parents may hesitate at the sexual discussions and situations, however Brian really nails what girls experience. While the book can get trite at times, characters are thoughtful and through self-reflection find the best solutions for themselves, which is what all parents hope for their daughters.

Families can talk about...

  • Families can talk about who says what about sex. What do friends say? Society? The media? How is sex portrayed on TV and in movies? Does this portrayal mirror what is going on in school? Is there pressure at school for girls and guys to behave a certain way sexually?

Book details

Author:Kate Brian
Genre:Coming of Age
Book type:Fiction
Publisher:Simon Pulse
Publication date:April 22, 2008
Number of pages:304

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Teen, 16 years old Written bylovekatebrian January 17, 2009

I couldn't stop reading. I read for 4 hours straight.!!!!

Loved loved loved loved loved loved loved loved loved the book. It's has some sexual material but i think that is what makes it a good book. It's not to over the top.But it's still interesting.
Parent Written byCommonSenseParent November 30, 2010

Light read for teens

The Virginity Club is a light and fun chick-lit read for 6th grade and up. The book is not sinful like Common Sense Media makes it out to be. This book is actually a lot lighter than most young adult books. It's a safe read for kids.
What other families should know
Educational value
Great messages
Great role models
Teen, 14 years old Written byellaleah June 30, 2012

Maybe for older children

I really enjoyed this book, but I wouldn't recomend this book for children. As I am 14, I can't really say much but I will say this, The Virginity Club is a book that is not raunchy or constantly sex ridden. It is a book about teenage romance, issues and conflicts in the family. It has positive messages, such as waiting until you are ready and not buying into peer pressure, loving and trusting your family, and standing up for yourself and what you believe in.
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Too much sex
Too much swearing
Too much drinking/drugs/smoking


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