Parents' Guide to

The You I've Never Known

By Amanda Nojadera, Common Sense Media Reviewer

age 14+

Moving LGBTQ tale tackles abuse, bullying, and homophobia.

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age 18+

Based on 1 parent review

age 18+

You Dont Have To Know Every You

This was such a disappointing suggestion for common sense media to make. They have let me down many times before, but so far this is the only place I have found for honest parent reviews. At least I hope they are being honest. I will trust and believe the parents reviews before I ever trust csm! Anyway.... There is no place on my bookshelf for a book with such language. A child 14+ has no reason to be reading about graphic sex! Why on earth would you want your child reading this trash, and why would you want your child reading such vulgar language? I can honestly say I cannot recommend this book! The filth people are writing is bad enough, but to let your child read the filth and let it swirl around their precious hearts and minds would be a travesty!

This title has:

Too much sex
Too much swearing
Too much drinking/drugs/smoking

Is It Any Good?

Our review:
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Kids say (2):

Hopkins creatively uses verse and prose to connect her characters, explore bisexuality, and highlight the power of perseverance. Her word choices and their placement on the page capture the girls' pain as well as their desperate longing for love and a place to call home. Although Ariel doubts herself and her identity throughout The You I've Never Known, her decision to break free from her dad's manipulation and abuse is empowering.

Clues about the characters' identities and their connections are slowly revealed, but it's frustrating waiting for the predictable plot twist to be confirmed and makes the ending feel rushed.

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