Parents' Guide to Three Little Words: A Memoir

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By Matt Berman , based on child development research. How do we rate?

age 16+

Harrowing foster child memoir for mature readers.

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Parent and Kid Reviews

age 15+

Based on 3 parent reviews

age 13+

Based on 11 kid reviews

Kids say the book offers a mature and insightful perspective on the foster care system, making it a valuable read for older children and teens, though it may not be suitable for younger or sensitive readers. Many reviewers praise its emotional depth and the personal growth of the main character, providing both inspiration and a reflection on the harsh realities faced by kids in foster care, despite some claims that certain events in the narrative might be exaggerated.

  • mature themes
  • emotional depth
  • fostering awareness
  • personal growth
  • suitable for older kids
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What's the Story?

In the first half, author Ashley Rhodes-Courter describes her childhood in the foster-care system: After being taken away from her mother at age three, she endures fourteen foster homes in nine years, including one that was seriously abusive. In the second half she details her adoption and subsequent struggles to adapt, overcome her distrust, and feel like she belongs with her new family, as well as her legal battles with the abusive foster parents and the state system that looked the other way.

Is It Any Good?

Our review:
Parents say ( 3 ):
Kids say ( 11 ):

The first half of this book is just disturbing and horrifying, the more so because readers know that it's true, and actually happened to the little girl in the pictures at the back. It's for teens only, and even they might wonder why they are reading something so miserable. But as a story, that first half perfectly sets up Rhodes-Courter's courageous battles and triumphant successes in the second half, leaving the readers feeling strongly connected to the author and deeply satisfied by her accomplishments.

The author spares no one, least of all herself, and in her plain, straightforward, unadorned prose her anger is palpable and fully justified. But her determination and strength of character prevent her from wallowing in blame and indignation, instead turning this into a story of hope and triumph as she rises from the ashes of her ruined childhood to become a best-selling author and spokesperson for the protection of foster and adopted children. If you can get through the harrowing first half, you will find yourself astonished and uplifted.

Talk to Your Kids About ...

  • Families can talk about how Ashley came out of this gruesome childhood intact and excelling. What enabled her to succeed when so many others are lost?

  • Why so you think Ashley's story got media attention?

  • What do you know about teh foster care system? What did you learn about it from this book?

Book Details

  • Author : Ashley Rhodes-Courter
  • Genre : Autobiography
  • Book type : Non-Fiction
  • Publisher : Atheneum
  • Publication date : January 1, 2008
  • Publisher's recommended age(s) : 14 - 14
  • Number of pages : 304
  • Last updated : October 9, 2025

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