Parents' Guide to

To All the Boys I've Loved Before, Book 1

By Kate Pavao, Common Sense Media Reviewer

age 13+

Sassy sisters steal the show in well-told romantic read.

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A Lot or a Little?

What you will—and won't—find in this book.

Community Reviews

age 12+

Based on 8 parent reviews

age 10+


This book is great for ages 10+ because there are some ups and downs to this book. The up is that it has positive messages. For example, during the story the narrator explains that "We are sisters, and there's nothing she or I can ever say or do to change that." and this shows kids that you should be thankful for what you have because family is everything and you get put with a family when you're born and a family is a family so you have to make due with what you have! One of the downs is that their is some language and sexual stuff, not too much detail just some kissing and rumors about people having sex and all of that! But I think that if your kid has the run down that they dont let other people touch them and all that fun stuff then I think its just right for them!!

This title has:

Educational value
Great messages
Great role models
2 people found this helpful.
age 11+
Cute, good messages about friendship and sisterhood. Description exaggerated immensly

This title has:

Great messages
Great role models

Is It Any Good?

Our review:
Parents say (8 ):
Kids say (67 ):

The plot is a bit contrived: If you were writing letters that you never meant to send, why would you address them? But once teens get over that bit, this is a book they will love. Romance may be driving the plot -- and it's certainly fun trying to figure out who Lara Jean will ultimately end up with -- but it's really the relationship of these sisters that make this book so amazing. There's perfect Margot, romantic Lara Jean, and cute-but-bratty Kitty, who all work hard to keep their family together after their mom's death: baking special Christmas cookies, lying to their white dad about the quality of his Korean food, even inventing a crazy dance that ends in the splits.

The details make the family seem really real. That's why the book's most spine-tingling scene is not about who's kissing whom but rather the moment when the tension finally breaks between Margot and Lara Jean, making the narrator realize: "We are sisters, and there's nothing she or I can every say or do to change that."

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