Parents' Guide to You Don't Know Me

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Common Sense Media Review

By Matt Berman , based on child development research. How do we rate?

age 13+

Teen uses humor and fantasy to cope with abuse.

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Why Age 13+?

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Parent and Kid Reviews

age 13+

Based on 4 parent reviews

age 12+

Based on 22 kid reviews

Kids say this book is both captivating and relatable, featuring a protagonist that many find heroic, witty, and deeply human, despite its exploration of dark themes such as abuse, abandonment, and depression. While some readers appreciate its unique stylistic approach and emotional depth, others find it occasionally confusing or unsettling, making it more suitable for older teens rather than younger audiences.

  • relatable protagonist
  • emotional depth
  • unique style
  • dark themes
  • teenage struggles
  • suitable for teens
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What's the Story?

John, 14, describes his life, filled with the usual teen miseries: he has a crush on a manipulative, selfish girl, he doesn't understand algebra, he has no good friends, and he is alienated both at school and at home. But he also has a more serious problem: his mother's live-in boyfriend, referred to only as "the man who is not my father," beats him regularly, and may be involved in criminal activities. In the course of this book, John has a more disastrous than usual date with the girl of his dreams, his "friend who is not a friend" is arrested for shoplifting, and he is given a tuba solo in the school band. But then his mother has to leave town to deal with a dying relative, and John is left alone with her abusive boyfriend.

Is It Any Good?

Our review:
Parents say ( 4 ):
Kids say ( 22 ):

This is a stunning combination of brilliantly sardonic teen observation, lyrical writing, and anger. Like teen protagonists before him, all the way back to Holden Caulfield, John notices above all the falseness and hypocrisy around him, but his descriptions of each moment, ruthlessly parsed, are uniquely creative, at times almost surrealistic.

Some of the scenes are laugh-out-loud funny, so the denouement comes as even more of a shock. John's problems may get a bit melodramatic at the end, but by then the reader is so immersed in his character that it is moving nonetheless. Sharply observed, and with a powerful voice, this is David Klass' best novel yet.

Talk to Your Kids About ...

  • Families can talk about the heavy theme of this book. Is it important for kids -- even those who have never had to deal with an abusive home life -- to read John's story? Why or why not?

  • How do you think the author handled the descriptions of violence? Were they appropriate for the story? This book is targeted to 12 and up -- does it seem appropriate for this age group?

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