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Parents' Guide to

Dear Ex

By Barbara Shulgasser-Parker, Common Sense Media Reviewer

age 16+

Boy copes with mourning his gay dad; cursing, violence.

Movie NR 2018 100 minutes
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A Lot or a Little?

What you will—and won't—find in this movie.

Community Reviews

age 12+

Based on 1 parent review

age 12+

Very biased ratings on commonsensemedia

I find it hard to believe that this site gives one star for “great role models.” The movie does a great job of conveying a heroism that lies within imperfect and biased human beings. Role models need—and ought— not be perfect. Also, in an era in which people are grappling with issues of sexual identity increasingly early on, this site’s suggested age of 16 seems ludicrously high. Minors need to learn that sex is not a bad thing. It’s normal. And this film does a fine job of conveying this message. Lastly, it’s hard to believe that such low ratings given by this site are justified in light of such scanty evidence and argumentation. The vast majority of reviews found on reputable sites online are overwhelmingly positive, and many of the objections that this site has to Dear Ex have been addressed by movie critics.

Is It Any Good?

Our review:
Parents say (1 ):
Kids say (2 ):

This Taiwanese drama is so-so; not terrible but not wonderful, either. On the plus side, Dear Ex is about love and loss, being true to oneself self, and finding the courage to be authentic in the world, and those goals are accomplished well. But good intentions are weighed down by a chaotic style that doesn't organically flow from the plot. A messy and nearly incomprehensible play-within-a-play detracts from the rest of the goings on. Drawings, however cute, come out of nowhere to black out a scene, or adorn a character with wings or a sword. The reason for these flights of fancy are never clear, nor do they especially enhance our understanding of the action.

The gay man who falls deeply in love with the older married man is extremely sympathetic. The fact that he cannot tell his adoring mother that he's gay because he doesn't want to disappoint her is both touching and human, and that is why teens with secrets may find this movie heartening and compelling

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