A Lot or a Little?
What you will—and won't—find in this movie.
Suggests that running away from problems can lead to pain and heartbreak and that loving someone means supporting them in their choices, no matter how hard those choices might be for others. Argues that insular communities can be very intolerant of those who are different or break the standard behavior norms.
Positive Role Models
Characters are very human -- i.e., heavily flawed. They're relatable, but they have few heroic or admirable tendencies. Characters make the difficult decision to leave behind the safety of what they know for an uncertain but hopeful future. Two central lesbian characters are portrayed realistically, not as stereotypes.
Violence & Scariness
A man collapses and later dies (of pneumonia). Arguing/yelling. A man grabs his wife in anger.
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Sex, Romance & Nudity
Fairly explicit sex scene between Esti and Ronit; partial nudity and lots of kissing, licking, touching, passionate moaning; they also kiss passionately in other scenes. Ronit has sex with an anonymous man in a bathroom stall; no nudity, but thrusting, moaning. Esti has sex in bed with Dovid; she's shown topless, and there's thrusting and moaning.
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Fairly infrequent language includes uses of "f--k" and "s--t."
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Drinking, Drugs & Smoking
Ronit smokes cigarettes. Social drinking. A man drinks a glass of whiskey. Reference to drugs; reference to a character's pipe.
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Parents Need to Know
Parents need to know that Disobedience is an intelligent, nuanced drama based on Naomi Alderman's novel about how two women's lives and relationship are affected by the insular Jewish community in which they were raised. There are several sex scenes: Women have sex with men, with moaning and thrusting (as well as partial nudity), and there's also a passionate, rather explicit sex scene between the two central women (there's more partial nudity, plus kissing, licking, touching, and more). A minor but important character collapses and dies, and there's yelling/arguing; a man also angrily grabs his wife during an argument. Language is infrequent but includes at least one use each of "f--k" and "s--t." A main character smokes cigarettes, a character drinks a glass of whiskey, and there's social drinking and a brief discussion of drugs. The movie's themes are quite mature, and it's very much meant for adults. Rachel Weisz, Rachel McAdams, and Alessandro Nivola co-star. To stay in the loop on more movies like this, you can sign up for weekly Family Movie Night emails.
Is It Any Good?
With an intuitive insight into women's survival instincts, Chilean director Sebastian Lelio builds a powerful portrait of a secret, struggling relationship, fleshed out by two fine performances. Lelio makes his English-language debut with Disobedience, which is based on the novel by Naomi Alderman. As with Lelio's two previous movies -- Gloria and the Oscar-winning Best Foreign Language Film A Fantastic Woman -- this film depicts a complex diorama of pain and longing, a yearning for acceptance but also a bracing for loneliness. Lelio has a sure touch for performance as well as for composition and tone, and the result is an intelligent, emotionally true movie that never steps wrong.
Weisz gives one of her finest performances as the deeply flawed Ronit, who perhaps hoped to have things both ways and is dismayed that her choices may have led to heartbreak. She's not entirely sympathetic, even if her feelings are totally understandable. McAdams is also superb as a woman who escaped in a different way, into the stability of a marriage she doesn't have her whole heart in, simply because she didn't have anywhere else to go. Separately, Esti and Ronit inhabit a chilly, overcast world of houses and rooms and rituals, wandering through in medium-wide shots. But their moments together, of release and confession, are close-up and intimate, as well as breathtaking and profound.
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