Parents' Guide to

Grace and Grit

By Tara McNamara, Common Sense Media Reviewer

age 15+

Messy messaging in cancer romance; language, drinking.

Movie R 2021 111 minutes
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age 18+

Based on 1 parent review

age 18+


The first spiritual quality to live in good terms with reality is ACCEPTANCE. We know that films are not ever as good as the books they represent, but Sebastian Siegel has done a fine job in writing and directing a meaningful and profound journey in the pitfalls of cancer and the heights of love between two very special people that even though they're committed to a personal and transpersonal evolutionary consciousness growth, they're also like everyone else, showing their downsides (what it also humanizes the movie) and in the whole the acceptance of reality as it comes. Ken doesn't end up being an alcoholic and Treya doesn't end up in despair, therefore I find a great lesson to learn, profusely recommended by Ken himself: trascend and include, to keep on flowing with life !!!

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Everyone has a story, but not everyone's story is cinematic -- and while the Wilbers' experience may deserve our compassion, this depiction doesn't deserve our viewership. Writer-director Sebastian Siegel shows an ineptitude for storytelling, butchering the screenplay adaptation. For those who are unfamiliar with Wilber's complex teachings about consciousness, nothing will be learned here. It seems as if Treya did some extraordinary things, and the couple came to some inspirational conclusions through their harrowing experience, but none of it is clearly communicated in Grace and Grit. Seesawing between Ken and Treya's transcendent love affair and the couple trying new therapies and getting worse and worse results, it starts to feel like a warped version of Final Destination that resolves in what must be the world's longest and most melodramatic death scene.

This is a production deeply in need of a tripod. Cinematographer Shan Liljestrand overuses and overshakes the shaky cam, which is nauseatingly aggravated by his reliance on circle zooms and fisheye viewpoints. Much goes unexplained, and lines are repeated without impact. Dreamlike inserts of Treya walking through a lush green Malibu mountaintop to represent her personal journey and Ken plunging lifelessly through water to indicate his helplessness are tired clichés. Like him, hate him, or don't know him, it appears that Wilber is at least an original thinker -- and this production doesn't do him, his late wife, or their ideas justice. The only way to enjoy this film is unconscious.

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