Parents' Guide to It Ends with Us

Movie PG-13 2024 130 minutes
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Common Sense Media Review

Tara McNamara By Tara McNamara , based on child development research. How do we rate?

age 14+

Steamy romance condemns domestic abuse; violence, language.

Parents Need to Know

Why Age 14+?

Any Positive Content?

Parent and Kid Reviews

age 14+

Based on 13 parent reviews

age 14+

Based on 16 kid reviews

Kids say this film presents a blend of romance and serious themes, with some praising its emotional depth and performances, while others express concern over its portrayal of abuse and believe it should have been rated R rather than PG-13. Overall, viewers found it entertaining but warned that the mature content may not be suitable for younger audiences without parental guidance.

  • deep themes
  • parental guidance
  • mixed reviews
  • emotional performances
  • romance and abuse
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What's the Story?

Adapted from Colleen Hoover's bestselling same-named novel (which gained notoriety through the subcommunity of TikTok known as BookTok), IT ENDS WITH US follows Lily Bloom (Blake Lively) as she closes one painful chapter of her life—the death of her abusive father—and starts a new one. She moves to Boston, opens a flower shop, and meets attractive neurosurgeon Ryle (Justin Baldoni, who also directs). It seems like all of her dreams are coming true. But when an important person from her past resurfaces, emotions bubble up—and boil over.

Is It Any Good?

Our review:
Parents say ( 13 ):
Kids say ( 16 ):

This is the steamy romance you want your teens to see. From a parenting point of view, the romance in It Ends with Us is, in many ways, aspirational: It smolders and builds because the characters don't jump into bed together right away, first building their connection through dating and getting to know each other. The delay results in a deeper connection. Sure, the situation changes later on, but that doesn't alter the value of the message that establishing a solid relationship before physical intimacy can lead to a more satisfying outcome.

The subject matter may match that of the kind of made-for-TV movies you can see all day on streaming platforms or cable, but here, it's elevated. The messages are clear and important: Abuse is unacceptable, and when we date someone, we date all of their past pain and trauma, whether we're made aware of it or not. Also, life is messy, and, with brave choices, it's possible to move on from a difficult past and live your best life. Both Lily and Atlas (Brandon Sklenar), an important person from her teen years, get through the hand that life has dealt them in different ways, not letting it define them. At one point, there's even a conversation about what parents would want to tell their daughter if she was in love with a man who had violent tendencies—this movie can help you add that message to your own.

Talk to Your Kids About ...

  • Families can talk about the messages in It Ends with Us about relationships. How do you determine what's acceptable behavior in a relationship, and how do you identify someone who's abusive? What should you do if you or someone you know is being abused?

  • The source novel has been criticized for romanticizing abuse. Did you see anything in the movie that supported that argument? If you've read the book, which do you prefer, and why?

  • Discuss Lily, Atlas, and Ryle's careers, and how our past can influence the kind of work we want to do. What careers interest you, and who or what in your life has made that path seem appealing?

  • Is substance use glamorized in It Ends with Us? Are there realistic consequences? Why does that matter?

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