Meet the Fockers

Movie review by
Nell Minow, Common Sense Media
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Lots of sexual humor in forced family farce.
  • PG-13
  • 2004
  • 90 minutes

Parents say

age 14+
Based on 16 reviews

Kids say

age 13+
Based on 43 reviews

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The parents' guide to what's in this movie.

Positive Messages

Despite vast cultural differences between people, understanding and respect for differences can lead to satisfying, close friendships. Though taken to extremes in this film, love, warmth, and openness lead to stable, long-lasting relationships.

Positive Role Models & Representations

On the plus side: good parenting is a primary goal of each of the film’s main characters. Some gender roles are turned upside down: a leading male character is a nurse; a bright, vibrant lawyer finds his true calling as a parent and househusband who is supported by his psychologist wife. On the negative side, there’s lots of stereotyping that is meant to be over-the-top and funny: Jewish people, a Latina housekeeper (beloved, but played as a broad caricature), uptight "WASP" behavior, law enforcement seen as either harsh and rigid or inept and buffoon-like.


There are a number of minor pratfalls and accidents, all intended to be funny. Some examples: a dog is flushed down the toilet (and saved within moments); a backyard football game leads to a back injury (the character recovers quickly); a member of the Focker clan is injected with sodium pentathol; a character is attacked with a stun gun and has a brief “funny” seizure. In the background of one scene, a clip of a violent moment in the film Scarface appears on a television screen.


There is no overt sexual activity, but much of the film’s humor is based on sex. Beginning with frequent wordplay on the "Focker" name, this film is filled with sexual innuendo, sexual references, humor at the expense of the characters’ sexuality, as well as discussion of sexual acts, and bodily functions. The senior Dr. Focker is a sex therapist and is introduced conducting a "sensuality class" for elderly couples. In the film’s first scene, a male nurse starts to deliver a baby. A plastic breast is worn on numerous occasions by male characters to encourage a toddler to drink his mother’s milk. An oversexed dog simulates sex with a cat, a doll, and anything else he can find.


Non-stop risqué language, always for laughs. There are breast-feeding jokes, "boob" jokes, poop jokes, fart jokes, and jokes and conversations about vasectomies, virginity, masturbation, circumcisions, and more. Language includes multiple uses of "s--t" in various forms, plus "ass," "crap," "hell," etc. A baby repeatedly says "asshole" (his first word). Some typical lines are: "Is your vagina happy?" "I gave her a matinee today," and "Does she climax regularly?"


A few minor product placements: visuals of Sesame Street’s Elmo, a mention of Underwood Ham, and a Starbuck’s coffee sign in the background of one scene.

Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

Champagne, wine, and other alcoholic beverages are consumed during dinner and at some social events. A former CIA agent administers sodium pentathol (truth serum) to an unsuspecting victim.

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that in the pursuit of laughs, Meet the Fockers stretches the PG-13 rating in terms of subject matter and language. There are frequent, vivid discussions about and references to: sexual repression, sensuality, breast-feeding, circumcision, vasectomies, masturbation, and the sex act itself. However, other than some gentle kissing and embracing, the only actual sexual behavior on camera is a dog that simulates sex with anything that moves and even some things that don’t. Language is coarse throughout, with mild swearing ("s--t," , "asshole," "crap," "bastard"), toilet humor (literally and figuratively), and constant talk of body parts and bodily functions (breasts, farts, poop, breast-feeding, virginity, climax, and more). The family name -- Focker -- is the source of an unending volley of puns and innuendo. In addition, the comedy tries hard to be both politically incorrect and to exaggerate all manner of stereotypes (ethnic, occupational, gender-based); it succeeds in these efforts.

User Reviews

  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Parent Written byCroosma88 July 9, 2018

Funny but not okay for kids

I love this website and it’s usually correct however in this movie it does show a bus of girls dressed inappropriately and some of them remove their tops and sh... Continue reading
Parent of a 5, 12, and 16-year-old Written byChris T. January 1, 2018

Leans to much on sexual humour...

First things first, if you let your kids watch Meet The Parents then you probably think the sequel is going to be fine but in reality it has frequent strong sex... Continue reading
Kid, 11 years old May 23, 2020

Ok movies with so much sex jokes

This movie has so much sex jokes. Greg's mother talks nonstop about sex. Bare breasts and butt's are quickly shown. A man is injected with a needle an... Continue reading
Kid, 11 years old March 7, 2021

Hilarious! 4.5

This movie is easily my favorite out of the series. it's hilarious. it is a bit raunchy but god for mature tweens. innuendo.

What's the story?

After winning the approval of his fiancee Pam (Teri Polo)'s parents in Meet the Parents, Greg Focker (Ben Stiller) invites the straightlaced Byrnes family to meet his own eccentric family in MEET THE FOCKERS. Everyone -- including super-programmed grandchild Jack-Jack -- hops into Jack (Robert DeNiro)'s super-fitted RV and head to Florida, where they meet Greg's parents (Barbra Streisand and Dustin Hoffman) -- the kind of people for whom the term "boundary issues" was created.

Is it any good?

Audiences who laugh at this movie are probably laughing more because they want to find it funny than because they actually do. The movie reprises many jokes from the first movie as well of some of its own. There is a slight but viable joke in the very beginning of the movie, when Greg has to leave a voicemail for his parents and ends up waiting through their incompetent answering machine recording, not realizing that they had not turned it off so including some very personal material. But within the next 15 minutes, the joke is repeated two more times. That still leaves time for plenty of attention to Greg's mother Roz, a sex therapist. But most of all, this is about how Greg, instead of being embarrassed about his fears of his own inadequacy, he is embarrassed about the external representation of those fears -- his parents.

Everyone tries hard. They all but climb down out of the screen. Hoffman kisses everyone, sits on the toilet while DeNiro is in the shower, moonwalks, and spreads whipped cream over Streisand's breasts. DeNiro wears a prosthetic breast called a "man-ary gland." It doesn't have whipped cream, but it does have breast milk pumped through it so his grandchild will feel that his mother is nursing him. Blythe Danner asks Streisand for sex tips. And Stiller has to stand before a trophy wall that displays his 9th place ribbons, his bar mitzvah tallit, and his high school jock strap.

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about stereotyping. What kinds of stereotypes did you recognize in the movie? Were they funny, and if so, why? Where do stereotypes come from? What are the positives and negatives of stereotypes?

  • Talk about how sex is used in the movie. There's no explicit sex, but plenty of sexual talk. How did you react to it? Why do you think the filmmakers decided to use sexual humor so heavily?

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