Naomi and Ely's No Kiss List

Movie review by
Tracy Moore, Common Sense Media
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Quippy look at friendship, sexuality has racy themes.
  • NR
  • 2015
  • 89 minutes

Parents say

age 15+
Based on 2 reviews

Kids say

age 13+
Based on 9 reviews

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Positive Messages

Friendship; loyalty; tolerance; making up; giving friends room to change and grow.

Positive Role Models & Representations

Naomi admits she isn't always honest, but she genuinely cares about friends and works to accept them in spite of conflicts or a falling out. Ely is a more accepting character, and though they're close friends who care a lot about each other and try to be supportive and fun, they're often portrayed as very self-absorbed and somewhat shallow. Parents are largely absent, while Naomi's mother is mostly bedridden with grief after a terrible divorce.


Sexual situations and discussion, innuendo, and kissing; a girl removes a shirt during making out with her boyfriend, but her bra remains on; overheard sounds of a couple having sex from the next room; friends lust after a cute boy; a couple makes out; a guy references jerking off; flashback to a girl in an elevator teasing a guy while licking a candy bar seductively, then kissing him; discussions of parents having affairs; a guy talks about kissing boys; a guy describes his sexuality and coming out; a guy references a penis; a guy suggests a couple "bump uglies"; a guy asks another guy back to his dorm room; a friend says he's going to "get some"; various couples kiss; a girl licks her boyfriend's mouth as they kiss.


"S--tshow," "hell," "s--t," "bitch," "damn."

Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

Wine with dinner; drinking at karaoke bar; brief shot of a guy taking a bong hit in a dorm room.

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that Naomi and Ely's No Kiss List is a quippy, upbeat, heartfelt movie about friendship, evolving sexuality, and early 20-something city life that features frequent sexual situations, discussions, kissing, making out, and gay sexuality. There's some light drinking in clubs, frank discussions of parents' affairs and divorces, cute boys, casual hookups, and lots of skimpy, eye-catching clothing and flirtatiousness. Profanity includes "s--t," "bitch," and "damn." There are positive messages about enduring friendship, growing up, and identity, but the movie is best for teens who can handle the racy themes.

User Reviews

  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Adult Written byLemonade0 May 8, 2021


This story features a best friendship between a straight girl and homosexual boy. The girl has a crush on the boy. The boy betrays her and starts seeing her boy... Continue reading
Adult Written byNicoloDS July 12, 2020

Not For kids!!!

To much sex ,bad language like S___t ,Stupid
Teen, 16 years old Written byAgirl November 4, 2017


It's crap. Even if you like super cheesy movies, it's crap. It was so crappy I did 2 hours of math after it and was still numb from all that crap (i h... Continue reading
Teen, 15 years old Written byAnonymousxraterx March 20, 2021

Naomi and Ely Review

I have watched this once before and I can’t seem to figure out the story line, all i understand is the fact a boy bestfriend likes this dude but the girl bestfr... Continue reading

What's the story?

Naomi (Victoria Justice) and Ely (Pierson Fode) have been friends since elementary school and, more than that, in love with each other. Their parents even had affairs with each other, leaving Naomi fatherless and both of them resolved to never let a boy come between them again. This wouldn't be a problem if Ely weren't in love with boys. As they navigate freshman year in college, city life, and the possibility of endless hookups, they struggle to hang onto their friendship while experiencing young adult life -- until a boy comes along and threatens everything. 

Is it any good?

Based on a book, NAOMI AND ELY'S NO-KISS LIST is a charmingly unexpected romantic comedy that has fun with friendship, relationships, and notions of soul mates. Here, best friends Naomi and Ely weather sexuality, loyalty, jealousy, and love in ways that aren't typically explored outside of romantic partnerships, and though the relationships and their concerns may seem frivolous or shallow, they ring true for a lot of self-absorbed 20-somethings, whose lives are still as urgent and dramatic as they were in high school, although they have bigger responsibilities.

These aren't stellar role models, but they are relatable characters with expected -- though privileged -- urban problems. There's an earnestness and quirkiness to the film's style and dialogue that keeps the plot moving. There aren't a lot of profound messages here aside from ideas about forgiving friends and the various forms soul mates can take. Plus, lots of young adult drama centers on kissing, boyfriends, and matters of the heart. Teens who thrive on dramatic relationships, young love, and a glamorized, fun-loving depiction of city and college life will be entertained. 

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about movies that explore coming out. Why do you think they're so popular? 

  • Do you think Naomi and Ely's No-Kiss List accurately portrays gay sexuality and friendship? Why, or why not?

  • How does the film glamorize city life? Do you think it's an accurate portrayal of life in New York City? Why, or why not?

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