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We Need to Talk About Kevin

By S. Jhoanna Robledo, Common Sense Media Reviewer

age 17+

Bleak film about disturbed teen is difficult to watch.

Movie R 2011 112 minutes
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age 16+

Based on 5 parent reviews

Toyabg
Toyabg Adult
May 22, 2020
age 15+

Crazy

This was a horrible movie plot. The kid was crazy from a young age. I’d like to blame the mom.However she was twisted also. He needed help and she knew . Her being in denial causes the death of many people. I would never watch it again. It’s depressing and sad.
K.schmidtt
K.schmidtt Adult
January 16, 2020
age 16+

Good if you like psych films.

A parent’s nightmare. Of course, there are movies like Rosemary’s Baby and the Omen -but this is a much more realistic account of what happens when your child turns out to be the devil. The mother doesn’t want a child, but makes an attempt to love her son -who senses from the beginning that she doesn’t love him and reacts with hostility. He quickly becomes disturbingly manipulative and has the father eating out of the palm of his hand while he secretly torments the mother. His disturbing behavior increases as he gets older and he ends up locking his classmates into school and shooting them (after killing his father and sister) She should have taken him to a shrink early on. Then again, I’d say it’s definitely partly her fault. How would you turn out if your mother and caretaker faked loving you? & I think there’s a genetic component as well. It’s amazing how you can see that the little psychopath is definitely his mother’s child, even as she’s horrified of him. They’re both cold and judge mental people who show kindness to each other only when mood strikes them. I think the mother must feel some responsibility and guilt when he kills his classmates....you can ask yourself (or teens) : is it her fault? How much of this is her responsibility? Granted, he wasn’t decapitating squirrels in the back yard -but wouldn’t you have taken that kid to therapy? The father dismissed all her complaints, but shouldn’t she have tried harder?
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What's the Story?

Based on a novel by Lionel Shriver, WE NEED TO TALK ABOUT KEVIN explores what life is like for a mother, Eva Katchadourian (Tilda Swinton), whose son, Kevin (Ezra Miller), has just maimed and killed his classmates at a local high school. The world she lives in now is a shell, with co-workers, neighbors, and strangers vandalizing her home and hissing hateful words at her at unexpected moments. But it is Kevin who most preoccupies her. As he sits in jail, Eva sifts through his childhood and teenage years, trying to make sense of what has happened.

Is It Any Good?

Our review:
Parents say (5 ):
Kids say (13 ):

There's no doubt that Tilda Swinton turns in a visceral, milestone performance in We Need to Talk About Kevin. As the mother of a teen who must live with her child's horrendous decision, she's nothing short of breathtaking. Viewers see her fall to pieces over the years as she struggles to understand his animosity toward the world and her own feelings toward him.

Still, the movie is too claustrophobic, rendering it hard to watch, amazing acting or no. Portent and despair envelop the film from the first few frames -- a teeming mass of revelers soaked in blood-red tomato sauce. The movie is steeped in premonition and dread, understandable considering the subject matter. But it's relentless -- the heartbeat that underscores certain scenes, the dreary lighting, the persistent red tint to it all. Enough.

Talk to Your Kids About ...

  • Families can talk about how the movie portrays Kevin. Why do you think he was the way he was? Was he disturbed from the start? Does that make it any easier to accept that he'd do the things he did?

  • Is there anything positive to be found in this movie in terms of messages or role models? If not, why do you think the filmmakers chose to tell this story?

  • What is the impact of violence in We Need to Talk About Kevin? Is it more or less disturbing than what you'd see in a horror movie? Why?

Movie Details

  • In theaters: December 9, 2011
  • On DVD or streaming: May 29, 2012
  • Cast: Ezra Miller , John C. Reilly , Tilda Swinton
  • Director: Lynne Ramsay
  • Inclusion Information: Female directors, Non-Binary actors, Queer actors, Female actors
  • Studio: Oscilloscope Pictures
  • Genre: Drama
  • Run time: 112 minutes
  • MPAA rating: R
  • MPAA explanation: language and intense violence
  • Last updated: June 20, 2023

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