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By S. Jhoanna Robledo
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Bleak film about disturbed teen is difficult to watch.
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We Need to Talk About Kevin
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Kids say this film is a deeply unsettling exploration of mental health and parenting, making it appropriate for mature teenagers due to its dark themes, including school shootings and emotional distress. While praised for its artistic merit and performances, parents are cautioned about its heavy subject matter and occasional graphic elements.
- educational themes
- intense performances
- mature content
- mental health exploration
- dark themes
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What's the Story?
Based on a novel by Lionel Shriver, WE NEED TO TALK ABOUT KEVIN explores what life is like for a mother, Eva Katchadourian (Tilda Swinton), whose son, Kevin (Ezra Miller), has just maimed and killed his classmates at a local high school. The world she lives in now is a shell, with co-workers, neighbors, and strangers vandalizing her home and hissing hateful words at her at unexpected moments. But it is Kevin who most preoccupies her. As he sits in jail, Eva sifts through his childhood and teenage years, trying to make sense of what has happened.
Is It Any Good?
There's no doubt that Tilda Swinton turns in a visceral, milestone performance in We Need to Talk About Kevin. As the mother of a teen who must live with her child's horrendous decision, she's nothing short of breathtaking. Viewers see her fall to pieces over the years as she struggles to understand his animosity toward the world and her own feelings toward him.
Still, the movie is too claustrophobic, rendering it hard to watch, amazing acting or no. Portent and despair envelop the film from the first few frames -- a teeming mass of revelers soaked in blood-red tomato sauce. The movie is steeped in premonition and dread, understandable considering the subject matter. But it's relentless -- the heartbeat that underscores certain scenes, the dreary lighting, the persistent red tint to it all. Enough.
Talk to Your Kids About ...
Families can talk about how the movie portrays Kevin. Why do you think he was the way he was? Was he disturbed from the start? Does that make it any easier to accept that he'd do the things he did?
Is there anything positive to be found in this movie in terms of messages or role models? If not, why do you think the filmmakers chose to tell this story?
What is the impact of violence in We Need to Talk About Kevin? Is it more or less disturbing than what you'd see in a horror movie? Why?
Movie Details
- In theaters : December 9, 2011
- On DVD or streaming : May 29, 2012
- Cast : Ezra Miller , John C. Reilly , Tilda Swinton
- Director : Lynne Ramsay
- Inclusion Information : Female Movie Director(s) , Non-Binary Movie Actor(s) , Queer Movie Actor(s) , Female Movie Actor(s)
- Studio : Oscilloscope Pictures
- Genre : Drama
- Run time : 112 minutes
- MPAA rating :
- MPAA explanation : language and intense violence
- Last updated : October 9, 2025
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