You've Got Mail

 
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Predictable-but-sweet romantic comedy.
  • Review Date: May 19, 2003
  • Rated: PG
  • Genre: Romance
  • Release Year: 1998
  • Running Time: 119 minutes

What parents need to know

Positive messages

Romantic but confusing: Woman falls in love with the very man who helped destroy her family bookstore -- so perhaps the message is, love conquers all? Messages about corporate power over mom-and-pop business.

Positive role models

Kathleen is gracious and poised, and really seems to care about the people who work for her and the families that frequent her bookstore. Joe has many wonderful qualities, but he also seems cold and calculating.

Violence
Not applicable
Sex

Some references to a man dating women way younger than him; two characters email each other and chat online and acquainted without their respective partners knowing; and there’s a passionate embrace and kiss in the end. Discussions of infidelity and cybersex.

Language

Infrequent use of “ass” and “hell.”

Consumerism

Prominent logos for Starbucks, Baby Gap, America Online (and the tell-tale sound of its dial-up service), Zabar’s, VISA, etc.

Drinking, drugs, & smoking

Social drinking, primarily wine, at events and restaurants.

Parents Need to Know

Parents need to know that this 1998 romantic comedy may seem old-fashioned to teen viewers, especially given the technology -- dial-up Internet access and AOL chat rooms -- at the heart of its plot. But they’ll likely find it entertaining, too, and still relatable. There’s a chain-stores-versus-independent-stores debate that may give young viewers pause (but would surely be informative). Plus, expect some discussions about infidelity and cybersex.

What's the story?

Joe Fox (Tom Hanks) is set to open a big-box bookstore on the Upper West Side, a neighborhood that’s fiercely protective of its small shops. (At least it was when the movie was filmed.) Little does he know that the woman he’s been chatting with online, unbeknownst to his frantic, editor girlfriend (Parker Posey), is Kathleen Kelly (Meg Ryan), the proprietor of a small children’s bookstore that will likely be decimated once his mega-store opens its doors. Can love trump commerce?

Is it any good?

QUALITY
 

There’s a reason YOU'VE GOT MAIL has become a romcom classic. It is knit together like a perfectly cabled sweater, with a nary a stitch dropped. The pacing is perfect, the characters likeable, the dialogue breezy. Some observations, including one about the overly complicated choices at chain coffee stores -- Starbucks, specifically -- still hold true. (It was filmed in the 1990s.) The arguments for the ability of small, independent stores to survive against super-stores are hopeful -- but also a sad, really, given how many have foundered in real life.

Nostalgia is one of the charms of You've Got Mail, and the old-fashioned courtship at the heart of it, despite being conducted online, is the most charming of all and references romances-by-letter of times past. Hanks and Ryan have heaps of chemistry, and though the fact that they fall in love given the circumstances seems highly unlikely — the plot’s a little far-fetched, but what romcom doesn’t have an implausible one? — we buy it because, well, why not?

Families can talk about...

  • Families can talk about the central argument of the film: Are big-box stores to blame for the decline of independent stores?

  • Is Joe’s and Kathleen’s relationship believable? Does it matter if it’s not? Do relationships that begin online face challenges that other relationships don’t? Also, talk to your children about instant messaging and other ways to communicate online.

Movie details

Theatrical release date:December 18, 1998
DVD release date:May 4, 1999
Cast:Greg Kinnear, Meg Ryan, Parker Posey, Tom Hanks
Director:Nora Ephron
Studio:Warner Bros.
Genre:Romance
Run time:119 minutes
MPAA rating:PG
MPAA explanation:some language

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Teen, 13 years old Written byshopgirl April 9, 2008
 

A 'watch it 100 times' kind of movie!!!

It is a romantic comedy, that the whole family will love.You can watch it over, and over again and it will be as; New, funny, and cute as it was when you first saw the opening credits!!!
Adult Written byMovieLover4Lyfe June 2, 2010
 
I love this movie! Meg Ryan and Tom Hanks shine together on the scree. In an age where computers and technology are very much present, this love story is one of getting to know someone through this technology in a way that you might not in real life.
Adult Written bylorif April 9, 2008
 

A Must See!

Meg and Tom are wonderful in this. No bad language and Meg is a stitch! Definantely a must see!

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