A Shot at Love with Tila Tequila

TV review by
Melissa Camacho, Common Sense Media
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Hedonistic reality show is one big bad stereotype.

Parents say

age 2+
Based on 9 reviews

Kids say

age 11+
Based on 17 reviews

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Positive Messages

The series pits straight men against lesbian women and plays into gender and homophobic stereotypes. Lots of hyper-sexualized, hedonistic behavior. Tequila is Asian; the other participants are of various racial/ethnic backgrounds.


Yelling, arguing, pushing, shoving, slapping, punching, and all-out brawling between cast members. During the opening credits, Tequila threatens to kill anyone who hurts her emotionally.


The show is all about dating and relationships -- heterosexual, homosexual (lesbian), and bisexual. Kissing, hugging, massaging, stripping, and pole dancing (occasional related nudity -- usually of women's breasts -- is blurred out). Participants share a communal bed. Discussions of virginity, threesomes, and other sexual practices, but actual acts -- other than making out -- aren't shown. Expressions like "silver stroke" and "douche bag" are sometimes heard. Opening credits include images of Tequila in sexually provocative positions; she has a tendency to wear tight/revealing clothes, too. Men are shown having their buttocks waxed (though their backsides aren't completely revealed).


Words like "crap," "ass," and "bitch" are audible; stronger curse words like "s--t" and "f--k" are bleeped, as are the words "t-ts" and "penis."


The show is a promotional vehicle for Tequila; her image is visible on featured magazine covers, in music videos, and online.

Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

Drinking (both beer and hard alcohol) is featured prominently. Tila's stage name -- "Tequila" -- is an homage to the liquor. The show's logo features shot glasses.

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that this hyper-sexualized reality dating series -- in which both men and women compete for the affections of Internet celebrity Tila Tequila -- openly discusses bisexuality and lesbianism. It pits lesbians against straight men and exploits both gender and homophobic stereotypes. Cast members fight, drink (a lot), and swear (the strongest words are bleeped), and there's very strong sexual innuendo. All of that makes this show pretty iffy for anyone except adults who are able to recognize it as an intentionally over-the-top guilty pleasure.

User Reviews

  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Parent Written byPlague December 15, 2009

Shot in the Face

Absolutly no point in shows like these. Its fake, sensless, stupid, and somehow this waste of life show made it through it's season and had a SECOND SEASON... Continue reading
Adult Written bycvargas74 April 9, 2008

Watch this BEFORE your kids do!!!

Although some of the shows are fairly ok---I still get offended by alot of it. I have4 daughters---14,10,8,5. It does show that its ok to choose their own sexua... Continue reading
Teen, 14 years old Written byEspumaMarina October 16, 2010

This is just purely, truely gross....

Who can be so sexually active for so long that they'd make a show about it? It's discusting, and I'm so SO ashamed of myself for liking it. I stu... Continue reading
Teen, 14 years old Written byHoneyCruller June 29, 2010

It's all about how much you can handle it.

Me, I was looking for something to watch one day and of course, I dove into the MTV area of my on demand program and decided to see what this had as a summary.... Continue reading

What's the story?

In the reality dating competition series A SHOT AT LOVE WITH TILA TEQUILA, both men and women compete for the affections of Playboy model/cyber celebrity Tila Tequila (real name Tila Nguyen). Tequila, who is bisexual, invites a group of heterosexual men and lesbian woman to live in her house so she can get to know them better and decide whether her true love is a man or a woman. The houseguests must endure one another's presence while trying to secure Tequila's love. Each week, those who don't impress her are asked to leave; the last one standing wins the key to her heart.

Is it any good?

The cast indulges in plenty of the kind of behavior we've come to expect thanks to similar reality shows like I Love New York and The Real World -- including excessive drinking, endless arguing, and all-around hedonism. But A Shot at Love takes it all to the extreme, from over-the-top partying to exploitative, vulgar sexual behavior. Behind it all is the flirtatious Tequila, who uses her trademark sex appeal to both arouse and antagonize her would-be lovers.

The show is groundbreaking in that it openly features bisexual dating and relationships. Unfortunately, it presents them in a circus-like atmosphere that makes them seem freakish and vulgar. It openly pits heterosexual men against lesbians, creating a tension based primarily on ignorant gender and homophobic stereotypes and contributing to social anxiety related to differences in sexual orientation. A Shot at Love is a hyper-sexualized, voyeuristic experience for adults who enjoy the guilty pleasure of indulging in these kinds of shows. But it isn't a great choice for teens.

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about online fame. How do sites like My Space create celebrities? What exactly do these "cyber celebs" become famous for? Families can discuss how the media addresses different sexual orientations. How does the media affect how society views sexuality? What stereotypes do TV shows and movies play up? Which ones do they counter?

TV details

  • Premiere date: October 9, 2007
  • Cast: Tila Tequila
  • Network: MTV
  • Genre: Reality TV
  • TV rating: TV-14
  • Available on: DVD, Streaming
  • Last updated: October 11, 2020

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