A Shot at Love with Tila Tequila

Common Sense Media says

Hedonistic reality show is one big bad stereotype.





What parents need to know

Positive messages

The series pits straight men against lesbian women and plays into gender and homophobic stereotypes. Lots of hyper-sexualized, hedonistic behavior. Tequila is Asian; the other participants are of various racial/ethnic backgrounds.


Yelling, arguing, pushing, shoving, slapping, punching, and all-out brawling between cast members. During the opening credits, Tequila threatens to kill anyone who hurts her emotionally.


The show is all about dating and relationships -- heterosexual, homosexual (lesbian), and bisexual. Kissing, hugging, massaging, stripping, and pole dancing (occasional related nudity -- usually of women's breasts -- is blurred out). Participants share a communal bed. Discussions of virginity, threesomes, and other sexual practices, but actual acts -- other than making out -- aren't shown. Expressions like "silver stroke" and "douche bag" are sometimes heard. Opening credits include images of Tequila in sexually provocative positions; she has a tendency to wear tight/revealing clothes, too. Men are shown having their buttocks waxed (though their backsides aren't completely revealed).


Words like "crap," "ass," and "bitch" are audible; stronger curse words like "s--t" and "f--k" are bleeped, as are the words "t-ts" and "penis."


The show is a promotional vehicle for Tequila; her image is visible on featured magazine covers, in music videos, and online.

Drinking, drugs, & smoking

Drinking (both beer and hard alcohol) is featured prominently. Tila's stage name -- "Tequila" -- is an homage to the liquor. The show's logo features shot glasses.

Parents Need to Know

Parents need to know that this hyper-sexualized reality dating series -- in which both men and women compete for the affections of Internet celebrity Tila Tequila -- openly discusses bisexuality and lesbianism. It pits lesbians against straight men and exploits both gender and homophobic stereotypes. Cast members fight, drink (a lot), and swear (the strongest words are bleeped), and there's very strong sexual innuendo. All of that makes this show pretty iffy for anyone except adults who are able to recognize it as an intentionally over-the-top guilty pleasure.

Parents say

Kids say

What's the story?

In the reality dating competition series A SHOT AT LOVE WITH TILA TEQUILA, both men and women compete for the affections of Playboy model/cyber celebrity Tila Tequila (real name Tila Nguyen). Tequila, who is bisexual, invites a group of heterosexual men and lesbian woman to live in her house so she can get to know them better and decide whether her true love is a man or a woman. The houseguests must endure one another's presence while trying to secure Tequila's love. Each week, those who don't impress her are asked to leave; the last one standing wins the key to her heart.

Is it any good?


The cast indulges in plenty of the kind of behavior we've come to expect thanks to similar reality shows like I Love New York and The Real World -- including excessive drinking, endless arguing, and all-around hedonism. But A Shot at Love takes it all to the extreme, from over-the-top partying to exploitative, vulgar sexual behavior. Behind it all is the flirtatious Tequila, who uses her trademark sex appeal to both arouse and antagonize her would-be lovers.

The show is groundbreaking in that it openly features bisexual dating and relationships. Unfortunately, it presents them in a circus-like atmosphere that makes them seem freakish and vulgar. It openly pits heterosexual men against lesbians, creating a tension based primarily on ignorant gender and homophobic stereotypes and contributing to social anxiety related to differences in sexual orientation. A Shot at Love is a hyper-sexualized, voyeuristic experience for adults who enjoy the guilty pleasure of indulging in these kinds of shows. But it isn't a great choice for teens.

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TV details

Cast:Tila Tequila
Genre:Reality TV
TV rating:TV-14
Available on:DVD, Streaming

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Kid, 10 years old April 9, 2008
AGENot rated for age
Teen, 14 years old Written bykk_luvs_nick April 9, 2008
AGENot rated for age

ummm ew

I watched this every Tuesday so on wendesday I had something to talk to my guyfriends about in study hall. So its not a great show but it isn't that bad
Kid, 10 years old April 9, 2008
AGENot rated for age


EWW sickest show ever should be on tv ewwww no dont even watch it its sick!!!!


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